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Title: Will relationship return? Best for baby? Post by: Mimib on April 07, 2018, 04:54:33 AM Learning about BPD has been helping me understand the behavior of my fiancé. I used to deal with my anxiety with lots of quiet time- that helped settle me, but since meeting fiancé and being near to his regular need for reassurance, my anxiety has remained more elevated. We have a 9 month old son together and only knew each other 3 weeks before getting pregnant. I also have an 11 & 13 year old daughters . The interactions between fiancé and I have been negative lately and don't know if things still have to get worse before they get better. I am seeking ways to better care for myself and ways to communicate smarter.
Title: Re: Will relationship return? Best for baby? Post by: NGU on April 07, 2018, 05:49:38 AM I am seeking ways to better care for myself and ways to communicate smarter. Hi Mimib. And welcome. Your goals for being here are exactly what mine were... .are they still are. It's a good place to start. and don't know if things still have to get worse before they get better. This depends on your specific situation. What's going on in your lives, how you both act and talk, and what BPD traits he has that are causing problems. That said, things don't necessarily have to get worse before they get better. For example, I didn't help my own situation for multiple years because it took me a long time to figure out what was really going on, and then longer to adapt. You mentioned your elevated anxiety, and that your interactions with him have been negative lately. Have you noticed any connection between the two? -ngu Title: Re: Will relationship return? Best for baby? Post by: Tattered Heart on April 11, 2018, 08:18:09 AM Welcome Mimib,
I'm sorry things have been so tough for you lately. Has your fiance been under any extra stresses that could be causing the conflict to increase? |