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Title: How to stop giving, and over giving. How to be healthy Post by: juju2 on April 10, 2018, 07:31:36 PM Hi family
Looking at my r/s, over the past 11 years, what is it about me that has the balance of give and take be always out of balance. I am reading about boundaries. Am learning new ways of not being a caretaker. Maybe I can learn to do the opposite of what i want to do? It just seems like I have been a patsy. Dislike using that word and implication. don't know what else to call it... . Is it my perspective... . at this point, since we are separated, it doesnt matter so much, day to day, and it is still important. It's like I have a reputation with him to be easy in this area... . I hear other nons on here talking about giving and giving... . Maybe if someone could share even a small victory and how they got there... . With gratitude, juju Title: How to stop giving, and over giving. How to be healthy Post by: ClingToHope on April 10, 2018, 08:43:41 PM I hear you on the giving and giving.
It was drilled into me from my controlling mom and not helped with my own self worth issues. I am trying to learn about establishing boundaries myself And also how to effectively validate. I seem to have missed that class too. I will be watching this thread for insight. Can I ask what you have been reading to learn boundaries. All the best CTH Title: How to stop giving, and over giving. How to be healthy Post by: juju2 on April 10, 2018, 11:14:35 PM I have just been reading the posts here.
I know there is a great book on it. Anyone feel free to jump in... . |