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Title: NPD’s chosen golden child Post by: Thea on May 10, 2018, 11:20:34 AM HATES ME! He is the mist loving little boy! He tells strangers they are beautiful snd reaches his hand out to gently touch a persons hand snd tell them they are beautiful etc. he is affectionate with everyone, everyone! Except me. He is nearly aggressive to me when i day i love you or make any effort to show him affection. He accidentky hit meceith a stroller andvi said “ouch you got me toe” and he said”i dont really csre” Im devastated! Not becsuse of his behavior toward me but because this is not him! This is NOT who he is! MY SPOUSE IS DESTROYING US ALL. Im searching gor ways to deal eith this. I cant find sny. I cant figure this out. What kind of s motger an i i cant fobthis snymore.
Title: Re: NPD’s chosen golden child Post by: Harley Quinn on May 10, 2018, 03:11:16 PM Thea, would you say you are suffering the effects of emotional abuse? What you seem to be describing (I've read back through your posts) sounds like some intentional parental alienation. Who have you spoken to? Do you have a domestic abuse advocate and have you seen a doctor for support around the emotional impact?
You're sounding very anxious and desperate, which is a feeling I can relate to from my own experiences. I truly feel for you right now and know how frightening and disorienting this situation must be for you. Right now, try to focus on very simple things to get yourself through these moments of worry and panic. Breathe long and slow. Find a quiet space if possible and take yourself there to just breathe for a few minutes. Your children need you to be the stable parent and that can be really hard when you feel in the thick of it all. It is important you get some support in place to help you manage right now, to find out answers about your rights and how to safeguard yourself and the children from harm, which would include parental alienation. Is your SO diagnosed? Love and light x Title: Re: NPD’s chosen golden child Post by: Thea on May 10, 2018, 06:21:34 PM No SO is not DX. I am suffering, but Im not making this up. ITS TRUE! I asked someone who is around and they validated me. I am crushed.JUST CRUSHED. Idontknow how I got here and I cant just get out. I cant leave them behind, bnut if I goits goingto open a can of worms... .so disgusting!
Title: Re: NPD’s chosen golden child Post by: Harley Quinn on May 11, 2018, 07:08:56 AM Thea, we believe you. You'll find no judgement here. You are safe here to talk about what is going on. What behaviours are you struggling with the most from her? You've mentioned that the children are being affected and potentially alienated from you, which I have some experience of and know how hard that is. Have you done any research into this?
Can you tell us about the can of worms you feel will open up if you leave? Do you mean regards child custody? Love and light x |