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Title: A pull Post by: juju2 on May 14, 2018, 11:44:03 PM Hi family,
So tonite, my separated so came over, he needed to pick up some landscaping plants for his place that i had in containers. He also brought me some jeans that he had in storage, smaller size, since I lost weight. We had a great visit, about 1hour. He did say he wanted to draw up a plan that i had been saying I wanted for the back of the property here, to make a two story rental, a lot of people in this area have guest houses that they rent out... .I bought here for the purpose of doing that... . He does design, construction, all trades... . It looks like he wants to do the work. I am taking it very slow... . I don't know what his intentions are, really, and i am not sure what is going on, and it's ok. He is showing up more in my life, it feels good. It's like both of us are moving slow. Any insight is appreciated. Thank you, j Title: Re: A pull Post by: pearlsw on May 15, 2018, 07:50:41 AM Hi juju,
Nice to hear you two had a good time! Having some experience with the trades and being able to picture this a bit, I want to say that setting up a construction project seems riff with potential issues. How likely is this possibility and how soon could this develop? Questions to ask are: would you be offering this work in hopes of attracting him back into the relationship? After all that is a lot of hard, time-consuming work which requires a lot of planning, discussion, and execution. Could you do this in an unattached way? With no expectations? Or... .? What would the best approach be? What needs to be considered here? take care, pearl. Title: Re: A pull Post by: juju2 on May 15, 2018, 03:19:50 PM You bring up good points pearl.
most of what he says doesn't go into action, I have noticed.(over 10 yrs) He does have really good ideas. Last nite I didn't want to rain on anything he was saying. Just asking him his ideas. He does seem interested in me. Am just accepting and not questioning, requesting, demanding. he seems to be reaching out to me more and more... . another thing he offered was to take care of our (my) animals when I go out of town next month, he would have a key for a couple of days... .Am rethinking this, because i don't want to watch our dog when he is gone. personal reasons... .I really don't want to know what he is doing without me... . right now our future is in his court... . He notices every time I see him the good changes am making :0) and he is making good changes... .baby steps, baby steps Thank you Pearl for your support. j Title: Re: A pull Post by: juju2 on May 16, 2018, 04:43:56 PM Anyone have input, thanks again to Pearl for weighing in
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