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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship => Topic started by: Maxpax2011 on May 20, 2018, 03:59:09 PM



Title: I want to thank everyone for their help and support.
Post by: Maxpax2011 on May 20, 2018, 03:59:09 PM
Greetings, hope everyone is doing well. I guess this may be my last post. I think it is time to move on from the past, time to finally detach from all the reminders of my past relationship. I want to thank everyone for their help and support.

I recently met someone, a very kind and sweet woman. Her and I have started a serious relationship, and I am very happy. I am almost done with school, healthy as I have ever been. Starting a new job with my company, so I am happy about that. My life is very full-filling at this point. I learned a lot from my past relationship, I learned a lot about myself.

I am indifferent about my ex-partner though, I no longer have any desire to contact her, or wish to have anything to do with her, I would most likely avoid her in public if I ever saw her, not because I have feelings, but because I know nothing healthy would come from my interaction with her. That part of my life is in the past, and I am alright with that. I feel no guilt, no shame, or no remorse. Part of me wishes we never met, but then I look at what I learned, and I have no regrets. The hardest part about letting go of something toxic is being alright with yourself, and your choices, to forgive yourself for ignoring the red flags, to trust the wrong person. We are only human, and as humans we make mistakes. Like the saying goes: "to err is human to forgive is divine". So forgive yourself, and accept that we are only human.

Good luck everyone, and remember, there is hope after these relationships, you can get past the hurt, the shame, and the anger, I am living proof of it.


Title: Re: Out of the fog/Moving on
Post by: pearlsw on May 21, 2018, 03:24:36 PM
Hi MaxPax2011,

Do you think you'll drop by from time to time to offer support to others?

wishing you the best! 

pearl. :)


Title: Re: Out of the fog/Moving on
Post by: gotbushels on May 22, 2018, 09:03:02 AM
Maxpax2011   

We are only human, and as humans we make mistakes.
Indeed. I'm pleased to hear that school, work, and your relationship life are going well.  :)

I join pearlsw in support of your moving forward from the past. I hope you'll continue to participate on the boards to share what you've learned with others.   |iiii


Title: Re: Out of the fog/Moving on
Post by: Maxpax2011 on May 22, 2018, 04:40:10 PM
Maxpax2011   
Indeed. I'm pleased to hear that school, work, and your relationship life are going well.  :)

I join pearlsw in support of your moving forward from the past. I hope you'll continue to participate on the boards to share what you've learned with others.   |iiii

Thank you, I may pop in from time to time.


Title: Re: Out of the fog/Moving on
Post by: Maxpax2011 on May 22, 2018, 04:40:50 PM
Hi MaxPax2011,

Do you think you'll drop by from time to time to offer support to others?

wishing you the best! 

pearl. :)

Thank you, I did learn a lot. I will be sure to keep in touch with everyone.


Title: Re: I want to thank everyone for their help and support.
Post by: Insom on June 04, 2018, 05:51:09 PM
Thanks for the positive feedback, Maxpax2011!    It's great to hear you're ready for the next level.

How are things going for you this week?



Title: Re: I want to thank everyone for their help and support.
Post by: Maxpax2011 on June 13, 2018, 05:27:44 PM
Thanks for the positive feedback, Maxpax2011!    It's great to hear you're ready for the next level.

How are things going for you this week?



Things are going very well, thank you.