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Hi all.

I am finding it difficult to process the effect my BPD mother has had on my other relationships.
How do I even start putting all the broken pieces back together?

Welcome to bpdfamily alpacalove


One piece at a time  What are the main effects your BPD mother has had on your other relationships?

When considering your mother's behavior, what traits do or did you find most concerning or difficult to deal with?

Take care and hope to read more of your story later

The Board Parrot

You are feeling isolated and wondering how to put the pieces back together in your other relationships after being raised by a BPD  mother and does anybody else feel isolated in the aftermath. I too have a BPD mother. For the first few months of this year, I was indeed isolating myself from people because I was so upset about the terrible down turn in the relationships with my BPD mother and BPD siblings, and just overall frustrated with so many of the choices I have made in my life. I am facing the pain by being quietly present with it, while working on creating healthier relationships with family, friends, new people I meet, while learning how healthy safe people act versus unsafe people. The journey requires facing your pain while working on being your most authentic caring self, following your passions, surrounding yourself with genuine kind caring people, and setting healthy boundaries with everyone. There are moments when you will fall into the trap of some old bad habits and having bad boundaries with the wrong people, yet you will pick yourself up as long as you are honest with yourself, and let yourself feel your hurt and disappointment. There are many people on this site who are/have been in similar situations to yours. There are many of us who have been raised by a borderline mother who are here to support you, and let you know that you can indeed have a better life while putting the pieces back together in your relationships after being raised by a borderline mother. As you feel more confident in your abilities to create healthier relationships, you will indeed feel better. It is a long yet worthwhile journey. Keep us posted on how you are doing. We are here to support you and listen.

Hi alpacalove and welcome to the board! 

Kwamina is right when he says you put yourself together one piece at a time. 

Can you describe your relationship status with your mother today? 

What other relationships are you looking at specifically?

I hope to hear more of your story so post more when you can.  In the meantime, stick around and read.  There are many of us working on putting the pieces together and working on our own stuff after dealing with a BPPD mother so you are in good company.  The good news is that things do get better as zachira said.  The other good news is that we are a group who care, understand and can support and help you navigate your way through your goals.