BPDFamily.com

Hi. As a newbie, I find these people are speaking in abbreviations, and I pretty much have no idea what they are talking about. Like what is an "NS" or "NC", or what is a pBPD (etc., etc.). If they have an official list of this stuff, it would be helpful. Thanks.

As for me, after my sister's 10-minute sobbing rant (which in a way I'm glad happened because it made it very clear to me she has severe BPD), I'm on a sabbatical from her. I live in another state, so I can do that. She never gets around to actually apologizing, so I know not to expect her to get that her behavior was so off-the-wall.

Hi youngersister

Yeah those abbreviations can be tricky! You can find an overview here:
What do all these abbreviations and terms mean? (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=26601.0)

The Board Parrot

Hi youngersister.  I hope your abbreviation questions are answered by the article kwamina linked.  If not, just ask and I'll see what I can translate for you.

It is good that you can adjust your expectations regarding your sister's ability to self-reflect though it does not necessarily make it hurt less.  Have you taken a sabbatical before?  If so, how was it received?

Hi Youngersister,

I'm in the same boat as you.  I too recently have had a run in with my sister which was completely out of the blue (an attack via email) so I blocked her and am taking a step back.  Even though I believe this stemmed out of pain (hers), I'm not her convenient dumping ground (I'm the youngest), nor am I taking the bait for a fight that she wants.  I think my family thinks that 'this too, shall pass' but I seriously don't miss her nor have a close relationship with frequent contact so this doesn't seem to affect my day to day life at all.  If anything it feels good to send a clear message and like dealing with an infant having a temper tantrum, I'm simply saying 'no' and it feels healthy.