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Because all relationships are based primarily upon subliminal perceptions, I thought that this article might be of interest:

"It has been said over the years by many top health experts that the bulk of our personalities were established back near the age of 6 years old or earlier. While we may not consciously remember our good or bad memories from early childhood, our subconscious mind rarely forgets. We are programmed to beLIEve what we tell ourselves on a daily basis, for better or worse. What lies in the middle of the word “believe” is lie, ironically.

Do you say or think “I’m fat”, “I’m ugly”, or “I’m unlovable” hundreds of times to yourself daily? Or, have you programmed your mind to say over and over in a more empowering positive feedback loop statements like “How may I best learn from this experience?”, “I’ve overcome more challenging obstacles in the past?”, and / or “I am loved by family and friends who I also value, respect, and love”?

Mad Men Programming

The figurative and literal Mad Men on television and located on Madison (the “Mad” in Mad Men) Avenue in New York City, where so many advertising companies are headquartered, as well as from the offices of the Tavistock Institute in London and other Think Tanks worldwide like the Rand Corporation, invest billions of dollars each year influencing the masses. What is their primary target audience? Answer: The subconscious mind of viewers around the world where the bulk of our perceptions originate.

News and advertisements are built around subliminal imagery and negative fearful stories that will make their viewers more anxious and easier to manipulate and influence. Fearful people tend to be reactive and more willing to listen to the people in authority around them or their television set’s news anchor who tells them that they should go out and buy the safest home alarm system that will protect them from the burglars that seem to be hiding in bushes around almost every neighborhood near their home or apartment. It is called television programming for a reason in that your beloved television set is programming you with subconscious imagery every single time that you turn it on while watching from the comfort of our living room or bedroom.

When people are stressed, they search for consumer good items that may hopefully quash their overwhelming fears. Some people prefer desserts, fast food, booze, or prescription pills to calm their nerves. Others may want to shop for more shoes, dresses, leather jackets, or business suits that make them look better and feel more powerful. Upwards of 2/3’s of the U.S. economy is based upon the sale of consumer goods and services.

Both Mad Men who work in advertising and Controllers in personal relationship situations will likely use fear to weaken and control other people around them. When interacting with Controllers or watching fear-inducing television programming shows, the person who can clearly see the usual same programming techniques will usually be able to break free from the hypnotized or mesmerized state. The antidote to fear is love in almost any situation in life, whether it originates from self or others around you.

Who is most likely to program the children besides the television?

If you had a father or mother who told you from almost the day that you were born that you were a “failure in their eyes”, “unworthy of their love”, “not living up to their near perfect high standards”, “ugly”, “weak”, “stupid”, or even had one or more parents say one of the ultimate negative statements to their child such as “we wish that you had never been born”, these comments may fill your mind and repeat over and over during both your waking and sleeping hours. Your desired peaceful dreams may evolve over time into sleepless, nightmare-filled bad dreams.

A parent who tells their young child with a developing brain that is moldable like clay that they are unlovable over and over may later grow up to beLIEve that they are truly unlovable during their teenage and adult years. If their own parents told them that they were flawed and imperfect, then how could anyone else on the planet find them attractive, intelligent, and lovable?

A key point that will be repeated over and over in the Family and Court Disorder book, partly since repetition is the key to programming, is to emphasize once again that emotional abuse can be more damaging to a person than either physical or sexual abuse, per various psychological studies. An abusive and controlling parent may never physically assault their own child, but they slowly abuse them by telling them that they were a “failure” for not getting an “A” grade in class instead of a “B” grade, or repeatedly shaming them and making them feel guilty for not doing something right in their eyes either yesterday or 10 years ago.

Shame, guilt, and emotional abuse all play a role in the controlling parent’s need to control their children and / or the other parent. A weakened person, child or parent, is easier to control and influence. This is especially true if the controlling parent takes the bulk of their money, or controls the access to the funds in the bank or investment accounts. When Narcissists and Borderlines try to damage their perceived opponent in a Family Court setting, they will typically try to take control of the shared children and finances, first and foremost, since a weakened opponent is easier to control. Just like with Stockholm Syndrome type perceptions, a kidnapped victim or child may eventually feel love or at least neutral feelings towards their abusive captors even though the captors are inflicting pain upon them.

How Childhood Trauma Shortens Lives

“In the mid-90’s, the CDC and Kaiser Permanente discovered an exposure that dramatically increased the risk for seven out of 10 of the leading causes of death in the United States. In high doses, it affects brain development, the immune system, hormonal systems, and even the way our DNA is read and transcribed. Folks who are exposed in very high doses have triple the lifetime risk of heart disease and lung cancer and a 20-year difference in life expectancy. And yet, doctors today are not trained in routine screening or treatment. Now, the exposure I’m talking about is not a pesticide or a packaging chemical. It’s childhood trauma.” – Dr. Nadine Burke Harris, a pediatrician who works with children on an almost daily basis, in her very informative and enlightening Ted Talks video below.

How Childhood Trauma Affects Health Across a Lifetime – Dr. Nadine Burke Harris
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95ovIJ3dsNk

Quickly Reset Your Programming

If you want someone to change their actions and behaviors, you must first get them to focus more on questioning their own subliminal perspectives rather than staying focused on your comments or statements. Change, healing, and our personal perspectives all originate first in our subconscious mind. It does not matter how someone acts or speaks around us so much. Rather, our reactions based upon personal perspectives will determine whether we will smile, laugh, or get triggered to avoid and hate (just another side of fear) the other person.

To quickly change one’s state of being, or current emotions experienced, there are a few quick methods that are much healthier than cutting one’s self like so many people with personality disorder or high conflict personality type traits may attempt to do either to feel something instead of numbness or to redirect or release their overwhelming pain or negative emotions. These three (3) state changing strategies include the following:

1. Hold an ice cube or two in one hand; focus on the coldness and texture of the ice as opposed to the pain.

2. Place a rubber band on your wrist. Slightly snap it every time that you feel a negative state of being or an obsessively negative thought. Please don’t snap it too hard where you create actual marks on your wrist.

3. EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping: This free technique only takes anywhere from a few minutes to 10 minutes on average to quickly reprogram the subconscious mind by following some inspiring and brilliant videos by people like Brad Yates. It is akin to self acupressure that reboots the negative subconscious mind into one that is much more positive and empowering. Most people hear other people’s words repeating in their subconscious mind that originated from their parents, caregivers, news shows, or other kinds of television programming many years or decades ago. Why not be more in charge of creating the words that you will be telling yourself each and every single day?... ."

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Hi SeaCliff,

In what way did this article speak to you personally? Did this give you insight into your relationship and offer you some way to make a positive change in it?

Are you affiliated in some way with this blog or this is just something you found while looking around the internet?

sincerely, pearl.