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Title: Good news Post by: kells76 on September 20, 2018, 09:42:35 AM Just felt like sharing some good news (for once ) that hopefully encourages folks here... .
Had first EVER school night overnight with SD12 last night. For those of you who have been tracking our story for a while, this is huge. If you're newer here, this is the kid who at age 7 or so told DH "you're not my family". I hope this brings some encouragement, especially to the dads here, that things can get better, even though it can look very dark sometimes. kells76 Title: Re: Good news Post by: Skip on September 20, 2018, 10:05:55 AM Good to hear!
Title: Re: Good news Post by: kells76 on September 20, 2018, 10:29:33 AM Thanks Skip
I will add that it has taken a lot of work: using the tools, working with a counselor, practicing validation, being open to feedback, and playing the long game (not going for "instant gratification" of putting down Mom, etc). Just "waiting" wasn't magic. But doing the work over a few years has paid off -- most importantly for the kids to be able to have relationships with BOTH parents. Title: Re: Good news Post by: Panda39 on September 20, 2018, 10:51:48 AM Yay kells76!
Nice job! Kudos to you and your husband for learning the tools, implementing them and not giving up even when the going gets tough! I agree it's a long game... .marathon. Panda39 Title: Re: Good news Post by: livednlearned on September 20, 2018, 10:59:29 AM That is wonderful news! I'm so happy for you, and for SD12!
Your empathy and skills are a big part of that good news, kells76. Title: Re: Good news Post by: david on September 20, 2018, 08:50:06 PM Good to hear.
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