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Title: My adult child is causing havoc in the home Post by: Myheart on September 22, 2018, 09:07:02 AM I have an adult child with BPD who is raising havoc in our home. How do I ask them to leave without causing him to feel unloved ?
Title: Re: My adult child is causing havoc in the home Post by: Feeling Better on September 22, 2018, 09:46:38 AM Hello Myheart :hi:
Welcome to the son/daughter board. You say that your adult child is raising havoc in your home and you want to ask him to leave, so his behaviour is obviously unacceptable to you and that is ok, you have a right to have some peace in your own home. I haven’t had to ask an adult child of mine to leave but I do know that others who post here have. I think that it’s best to do it in a loving and supportive way without laying any blame, let him know that you love him and will always be there for him. Does he have somewhere he can go when you ask him to leave? Title: Re: My adult child is causing havoc in the home Post by: Kwamina on September 23, 2018, 09:19:03 AM Hi Myheart and welcome to bpdfamily :hi:
In what ways is your adult child with BPD causing havoc in your home? Do you feel safe with him around? You are asking how to ask him to leave without him feeling unloved. People with BPD are often indeed quite sensitive to perceived slights and rejections and often have a deep fear of abandonment. Does he live with you? How long has this behavior been going on and has your child been officially diagnosed with BPD? Take care The Board Parrot |