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Title: Breaking up with my GF who displayed BPD traits was the only option left Post by: SP on October 04, 2018, 04:57:35 PM Is it common to experience deep hurt 5 months after a breakup with someone who displays BPD traits, but has not been formally diagnosed?
Title: Re: Breaking up with my GF who displayed BPD traits was the only option left Post by: 1stTimer on October 04, 2018, 05:14:08 PM Is it common to experience deep hurt 5 months after a breakup with someone who displays BPD traits, but has not been formally diagnosed? I don't think the diagnosis would have any bearing on your own hurt and/or the time you felt it. That said there are I am sure 100s of threads here from people who experience hurt 5 months and even 5 years after a break-up with people with diagnosed BPD, undiagnosed BPD and no BPD. I'd guess often it is worse if it was a pwBPD because of the traits of 'love bombing' you experience and more or less get addicted to that then gets forcibly ripped away. I'm coming up on 6 month 'breakup' with a likely pwBPD whom I didn't particularly like let alone love, but you'll see (if you peruse the boards a bit) I was a mess for 2-3 months myself due to the nature of the discard. So if you were in a long-term relationship and/or In-Love then it would be pretty normal to still be experiencing deep hurt after 5 months. That said this is a good board to get support and start getting some perspective on what happened, why you feel hurt, how to move forward, and how to either choose a better partner next time or to change some of your own behaviors next time. I promise it gets better and you can even turn it into something positive. That isn't Polly Anna Feel Good advice it is from someone who has lived it too... . Title: Re: Breaking up with my GF who displayed BPD traits was the only option left Post by: Harley Quinn on October 04, 2018, 05:28:01 PM Hi :hi:
I'd like to join 1stTimer in welcoming you to the site. Can you tell us a little more about your experience? How long were you together and what was the situation that drove you to break up in the end? It helps to talk about it with others who can relate. Few who haven't had a BPD r/s can fully grasp what it is like and how intense the pain can be when we must let go. We're here for you and all support one another here. You will find joining other discussions really helpful as there is much to be gained from others' perspectives and experience. When you're ready, we'll be listening. Love and light x Title: Re: Breaking up with my GF who displayed BPD traits was the only option left Post by: Mutt on October 04, 2018, 05:50:33 PM Hi SP,
*welcome* I'd like to join the others and welcome you to the site. I''m sorry that you're feeling a lot of pain. Absolutely it can still hurt 5 months out, the months shortly after are the worst. How did you find us? You said that she is undiagnosed how did you learn about BPD? |