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Title: Spent: Financially and mentally Post by: AloneAtSea on October 08, 2018, 05:23:28 PM After many years married to a woman with BPD, five years of divorce and constant litigation has left me beyond spent. I feel hopeless. 165k in legal fees defending myself.
Title: Re: Spent: Financially and mentally Post by: Chitchat on October 08, 2018, 11:47:28 PM Your exhaustion is clear in your post. If you are not solvent, that will add hugely to your strain. But if you are free of the relationship, then things will not be hopeless.
Title: Re: Spent: Financially and mentally Post by: Lucky Jim on October 09, 2018, 10:47:52 AM Hey AloneAtSea, You are not alone, brother. I went through a protracted divorce from my BPDxW, which she extended through post-divorce proceedings, which wiped me out financially. Yet my financial losses were offset by emotional gains, as I'm a lot happier leading a drama-free life. It's a long game, so don't throw in the towel. Suggest you put yourself first and be kind to yourself. You are on a better path, my friend.
LuckyJim Title: Re: Spent: Financially and mentally Post by: spero on October 09, 2018, 01:23:04 PM After many years married to a woman with BPD, five years of divorce and constant litigation has left me beyond spent. I feel hopeless. 165k in legal fees defending myself. Hello AloneAtSea, I'm so sorry that you're in a bad place. This mental exhaustion must feel like heavy weights weighing down your shoulders and heart. Welcome back to the boards and this community. I see that you've not posted for a while since last year. How are you right now over the past 10 months or so? Yours, Spero Title: Re: Spent: Financially and mentally Post by: Mutt on October 09, 2018, 04:15:44 PM Hi AloneAtSea,
Excerpt 165k in legal fees defending myself. Is the divorce finalized? Can she end up paying for some or all of your attorney fees? I agree with the others you can't put a price on your mental health. I'm sorry that you're going through this and it's good for you to be back, it helps to talk to others. Do you have a T? A good T can really help you a lot. |