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Title: Feeling overwhelmed, guilty, stupid and unsafe Post by: kittie1234 on October 12, 2018, 07:26:08 AM Just recognising that my husband of 14 years has BPD and probably NPD as well... .frequent angry aggressive outbursts toward myself and our child that seem to be increasing with frequency. Feeling overwhelmed, grateful for finally finding something that makes some sense, guilty, stupid for getting involved with him in the first place, unsafe.
Title: Re: healing Post by: Mindfried on October 12, 2018, 08:19:11 AM Hang in there sister. Start planning your escape plan if you already haven't and if you and your kids do get out don't look back. Life is to short not to be healthy, happy, and safe. Not trying to sugar-cote, it will be difficult.
Title: Re: healing Post by: Lucky Jim on October 12, 2018, 09:36:38 AM Hey kittie1234, Welcome! I'm sorry to hear that you feel unsafe with your H. What leads you to believe that he suffers from BPD? It's normal to feel overwhelmed. If I may make a suggestion, it would be to treat yourself with kindness and compassion, rather than judging yourself as "guilty, stupid" for getting involved w/him. Hey, we're human! Who knew about BPD? Don't beat yourself up. It's one step at a time from here.
LuckyJim Title: Re: healing Post by: Harley Quinn on October 12, 2018, 06:16:38 PM Hi Kittie,
Welcome to the site. When you say you feel unsafe, are you at risk of physical harm? Maybe you can tell us more specifics around the behaviour you experience from your H. Has he made threats towards yourself or your child? Who else knows about your situation at home? We're here for you and this is a safe place to share. Keep posting Love and light x |