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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Conflicted About Continuing, Divorcing/Custody, Co-parenting => Topic started by: toomanydogs on October 23, 2018, 02:48:13 PM



Title: Questions about discovery requests
Post by: toomanydogs on October 23, 2018, 02:48:13 PM
My STBX's attorney is asking what medications I'm taking. And she's asking for me to sign a medical release.

My L told me not to sign medical release. And I let her know that I would not be answering the question regarding what medications I take.

If that's not something. My L didn't ask what meds my STBX takes, and he takes a ****load.
TMD


Title: STBX Lawyer Wants All My Email Addresses...
Post by: toomanydogs on October 23, 2018, 03:22:41 PM
Although my STBX's lawyer wants all email addresses I've used during the marriage, my L didn't ask for my STBX's emails.

My strategy, lacking conflicting direction from my L, is to answer only the questions my L asked my STBX.

TMD


Title: Re: STBX Lawyer Wants All My Email Addresses...
Post by: flourdust on October 23, 2018, 03:41:38 PM
That's not how discovery works -- you can ask your L if there are questions that you don't need to answer or that you can say are "not relevant," but it's not tit-for-tat. It doesn't matter what you asked in your discovery request.


Title: Re: STBX Lawyer Wants All My Email Addresses...
Post by: toomanydogs on October 23, 2018, 05:04:53 PM
That's not how discovery works -- you can ask your L if there are questions that you don't need to answer or that you can say are "not relevant," but it's not tit-for-tat. It doesn't matter what you asked in your discovery request.
Okay. My L did tell me I don't need to answer any of the medication information. And she told me she would look at the questions I said I wasn't willing to answer.
TMD


Title: Re: Questions about discovery requests
Post by: david on October 23, 2018, 09:30:19 PM
Could be stbx's attorney is doing what his client wants because his client is projecting his own issues onto you and his attorney doesn't know that.


Title: Re: Questions about discovery requests
Post by: toomanydogs on October 23, 2018, 09:58:09 PM
Could be stbx's attorney is doing what his client wants because his client is projecting his own issues onto you and his attorney doesn't know that.
Thanks. It has me really freaked out. My STBX lies. Has lied about : consummating the marriage, my stealing his money, my having a criminal back ground.

The one thing that concerns me is prior to his filing for divorce, I wrote a very nasty email, indicating I was putting an ad on Craigslist to replace myself. I didn’t place any ad. The tone of the email was sarcastic. Had fouj language. To undershot the email needs to be placed in context.

Asking for my medical record and medicatifrels invasive. I’m a survivor of sexual assault, and this invasiveness trigggers me. Sends me right back to being that helpless kid.

Sigh. This is tough. I need my L to get back to me regarding my questions I’ve asked her.

TMD