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Title: Looking for a Support Group Post by: JBoo on October 23, 2018, 05:30:55 PM I am pretty sure my husband suffers from BPD and am having a hard time finding a local support group. Does anyone have some guidance?He refuses to go to counselling, so i need some advice about how to deal with his behavior. I'm a calm, logical person, and I try to stay that way when he "flips his switch," but it's getting harder because he can be so cruel. Thank you for any insight.
Title: Re: Looking for a Support Group Post by: mraa90 on October 23, 2018, 06:13:13 PM Hello friend <3
I understand you are going through a lot, and putting up with a cruel behavior indicats that you are a decent person. From my expeirnce with the girl I have dated for only 2 months is that I was too afraid to tell her that I'm not okay with her giving me the silent treatment for no reason, although I never knew she did it on purpose I thought she was busy. The problem with BPD is that they will act like children and just like you would treat a child, you need to set rules or boundaries. I know that the last thing you want is to push his buttons which might make him leave. I just wanted to tell you that from my expierence sometimes forgiving the abuse will backfire. She left me out of the blue after I became her caretaker and I was okay with it. It's a double edged knife which makes it hard. My advice is to set rules, or simply leave the area when he switches because I know how it feels. The silent rage that I saw on that inocenct looking girl is the scariest thing I have ever seen. I hope you find peace and happinese. Title: Re: Looking for a Support Group Post by: Radcliff on October 23, 2018, 09:09:21 PM *welcome*
Dealing with BPD can be difficult, but bpdfamily is an excellent community in which to get support and learn coping tools. Can you tell us a little bit more about your relationship? How long have you been married? Do you have kids? Can you give us a little more detail on his painful behaviors? RC |