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Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on September 11, 2018, 08:37:56 PM Thanks.
From Al anon: The existential paradox by Dr. Joseph Santoro: "We are not responsible for how we came to be who we are as adults but as adults we are responsible for whom we have become and for everything we say and do." My take away: I am free when I take responsibility for my life regardless of what happened in the past. I have the power to choose. I can control my emotions and own my triggers. I get to determine my life. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: sewconfused on September 12, 2018, 10:23:10 AM I am an amazing wife, dedicated mother and step mother. And I am strong enough to help my family get through this difficult time and come out the other side healthier and happier by far.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on September 12, 2018, 11:25:10 AM I am an amazing wife, dedicated mother and step mother. And I am strong enough to help my family get through this difficult time and come out the other side healthier and happier by far. Yes! Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on September 12, 2018, 10:59:39 PM I care.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on September 13, 2018, 12:50:43 AM I self care!
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on September 13, 2018, 06:43:12 AM I will make/take time for myself.
Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Learning2Thrive on September 14, 2018, 10:17:04 AM I am going to ride my bike alone for at least 1 hour and be open to the adventure. This is a gift I will give myself today.
Happy Friday, everyone. L2T Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Libra on September 14, 2018, 10:48:29 AM Enjoy you ride L2T.
May adventure come your way! Libra. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on September 14, 2018, 10:56:26 AM I am free of the shackles of being ignorant about my childhood. Nothing can stop me now ! I need a short nap first and maybe a cup of tea, but then, nothing can stop me !
It's Friday Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on September 14, 2018, 11:51:07 AM I had a late night so i just woke up and this put a huge smile on my face Happy C!
Yes! Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on September 14, 2018, 01:14:34 PM I need a short nap first and maybe a cup of tea, but then, nothing can stop me ! I believe the technical term for this is Beagle Power Nap Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on September 14, 2018, 06:36:12 PM I am awesome
Yep. I've decided I'm no longer criticising myself. If I say great things often enough, I'll convince myself... . I think you're all awesome too, for being here, for caring about yourselves and each other. Love and light x Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on September 14, 2018, 10:56:44 PM Harley! Yes, you are.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on September 15, 2018, 08:12:20 AM I can say No without fear
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on September 15, 2018, 08:18:18 PM Knock me down, and, sure as a hell, I’m getting right back up.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Learning2Thrive on September 15, 2018, 10:03:02 PM Knock me down, and, sure as a hell, I’m getting right back up. Yes, yes you are, Harri! You are strong and determined. L2T Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on September 22, 2018, 09:26:54 AM L2T,
"I" think you are the undisputed "I" message queen! Go Girl! I love everything you've come up with Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: zachira on October 02, 2018, 02:30:35 PM I am not responsible for another adult's bad behaviors. I am only responsible for how I respond in difficult situations. I am building my self esteem when I keep my integrity and kindness no matter how badly I am being treated by others.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on October 04, 2018, 02:23:07 PM I am working on treating myself with as much compassion and care as I give to my son. I am worthy and deserving of that. I am. I will convince myself if I keep saying it.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 04, 2018, 06:00:52 PM Harley, you are worthy of compassion, care, love... .all of that. So add my voice to yours and we can have a duet!
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on October 10, 2018, 11:13:51 AM Harley I’d like to add to Harri comments by saying you are like a highly desirable motorcycle, lavished with chrome from America or a street in London with the highest quality medical help money can buy. If that's not desirable then I don’t know what is. What’s a Quinn by the way ?
I am no longer prepared to spend time with anyone incapable of showing others respect (unless there are huge amounts of money involved). Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: zachira on October 11, 2018, 12:25:20 PM My therapist is moving out of town after giving me 8 years of caring kind therapy. I have looked at myself from nearly every angle possible and uncovered layer after layer of pain which I have bravely processed. I decided 8 years ago that I was so frustrated by how immature I was and by how badly my family treated me that I needed to see a therapist. I think I can give myself a huge pat on the back for growing beyond what I thought possible and making it my life mission to be the best person I can be while supporting others in being the best people they can be.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on October 11, 2018, 12:34:40 PM I think I can give myself a huge pat on the back for growing beyond what I thought possible and making it my life mission to be the best person I can be while supporting others in being the best people they can be. I think so too zachira, you can give yourself a huge pat on the back for this! In fact, you can give yourself multiple huge pats on the back Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on October 11, 2018, 02:51:09 PM I think so too zachira, you can give yourself a huge pat on the back for this! In fact, you can give yourself multiple huge pats on the back Give yourself something in a treat that brings you joy too zachira. Something just for you. Maybe something you normally wouldn't give to yourself but would really love to have. You deserve it for working so hard! Love and light x Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on October 11, 2018, 03:01:45 PM Harley I’d like to add to Harri comments by saying you are like a highly desirable motorcycle, lavished with chrome from America or a street in London with the highest quality medical help money can buy. If that's not desirable then I don’t know what is. What’s a Quinn by the way ? Wow, a duet AND compliments on my chrome and healthcare Thank you, that's high praise. I will get better at graciously accepting kind words in my general direction. As for what a Quinn is, I've no idea! Although I did find this usable excerpt on Urban Dictionary... . Excerpt It has been said that everything that has ever happened in history has been either the result of a Quinn, or happened to produce a Quinn. Getting a Quinn for a friend is the best thing that could happen to anyone, a Quinn will light up the dark, will make the ordinary extraordinary, make the plain magnificent. In Quinn's hands you will find trust and comfort, happiness, and joy. Everyone trusts Quinn, and in turn Quinn will always be trustworthy. A Quinn is an aesthetically pleasing addition to any room, and brings a unique pleasing aroma into the room, not unlike a basket of roses after a mid-days shower. We can sidestep the part that explains that a Quinn is a male Adonis type... . Excerpt I am no longer prepared to spend time with anyone incapable of showing others respect (unless there are huge amounts of money involved). Respect is a core value for me too, so I think we could maybe add a guaranteed short time frame, like 5 minutes, plus the notes to that boundary Love and light x Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 11, 2018, 11:53:53 PM Excerpt We can sidestep the part that explains that a Quinn is a male Adonis type... . a male adonis that smells like roses... .no thank you. Everything else about Quinn sounds pretty darn good HQuinn.Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on October 12, 2018, 04:31:09 AM In US speak I believe you guys would call him a popular jock? So it seems he can pull it off... .
I will go to the gym today. Writing these statements makes them fact, right? Love and light x Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 12, 2018, 05:08:25 AM Yes HQuinn, writing something, especially on the internet, makes it true.
Zachira, I am happy you can see that and that your valued yourself enough to get help. It has been a pleasure getting to know you better. thank you for sharing yourself with us. I statement: I am strong. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on October 19, 2018, 08:56:25 AM I am creative
I am silly I am hard working I am caring I am not the The Male Adonis like Harley Quinn because you know I will not ever be able to get that image out of my mind now ... .However, I will own that I am Rubenesque! And Harri, yes you are strong! No doubt about it! Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 19, 2018, 03:18:14 PM Okay so I have been very lax on doing this daily... .or even every other day to be honest. I was finding it hard to think of new I statements but then realized today that I can repeat some... .certainly the ones that I still need to remind myself of and am still incorporating into my healthier sense of self. So here goes:
I am valuable. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on October 19, 2018, 03:21:56 PM You certainly are Harri!
I am changing for the better Love and light x Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on October 21, 2018, 01:00:54 PM Harri you are priceless, Harley you are changing for the better, you're becoming a Triump (motorcycle).
I am worth it. So I've just bought Emmental cheese and a tin of pop - two of the many forbidden foods my BPD said would be wasted on us (whilst she sat their eating it herself). Crazy how hard it is to treat yourself to all the stuff your BPD said was "too expensive to waist on children", even though I now realise it was more about eroding our self esteem. I was 16 when I bought my first new piece of clothing (hand me downs up until then). She got me to wear my Dad's hand me down underwear. She boil washed them so the elastic went, making them available as very uncomfortable hand me downs. It coincided with the first time I notice the opposite sex... .You've got to laugh (even though it wasn't a joke)... . Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on October 21, 2018, 04:48:23 PM Eat your cheese with pride man! You are absolutely worth it!
Love and light x Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: JNChell on October 26, 2018, 08:17:57 PM I’m better than I was this time last week. Thanks L2T. Miss you.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on October 26, 2018, 08:55:07 PM I am a good friend and I have made some good friends here! (Many of them are right here on this thread!)
Panda39 JNChell you're not alone, I've missed L2T too. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: JNChell on October 28, 2018, 01:15:54 PM I love the autum weather and the smell of it. I’m confident in my steps today.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 28, 2018, 03:49:31 PM Fall is glorious JNChell!
Step with strength and grace... .as always JNChell. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on October 29, 2018, 05:27:32 AM Panda smarter than the average bear, Boo-boo.
I’m still standing, yeah, yeah, yeah ! Then again, we Brits do like a good queue. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on October 29, 2018, 06:42:19 AM Little something for Happy Chappy... .
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZHwVBirqD2s We're all glad you're still standing! I am optimistic Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on October 29, 2018, 06:46:59 AM I am doing my best.
I am keeping my children safe. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on October 29, 2018, 07:03:40 AM Hi silencedPartner,
Yes! Those are both awesome I messages! I'm here because my significant other (SO) has an undiagnosed BPD ex-wife (uBPDxw) and they share two daughters. Doing your best is all that can be asked of you, and I know how hard that is Keeping your children safe is huge! You are giving your children so much, it's invaluable. Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on October 29, 2018, 07:35:43 AM Hey Panda,
Thanks for the reply. I really needed the support today. I am feeling really at the end of my capacity. Thank you. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on October 29, 2018, 07:44:15 AM You're Welcome.
I've been there with my SO, I know how exhausting it all can get. Try to fit in a little self-care today. If you have time and if you haven't already you might want to do a more extensive post on your home board. Everyone here "gets it" and there is lots of support to be had here. You are not alone in this Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on October 29, 2018, 07:47:25 AM I did post something, it was my first post but no one has responded. Maybe I posted to the wrong place. The day has gotten worse since that post, much.
I don't know what self-care looks like or how to do it. Ugh. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on October 29, 2018, 10:11:42 AM Thank you for this thread
#MyResilientHeart Positive Affirmation - I TRUST in my ABILITIES to IMPROVE my circumstances Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on October 29, 2018, 10:51:04 AM Hi silencedPartner :hi: You said -
Excerpt I don't know what self-care looks like or how to do it. Ugh. Excerpt Self-care is any necessary human regulatory function which is under individual control, deliberate and self-initiated. - Wikipedia. Self-care to me, means putting the focus back onto myself. I look inside myself to get clear on what is going on for me, and what my experience is. From there I ask myself what my wants, needs and desires are. When I am clear what my wants, needs and desires are, I then figure out how to go about meeting them for myself. Thank you for this opportunity to explore what self-care is Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Libra on October 30, 2018, 11:00:37 AM A flame can but burn as long as it is fed.
An abandoned, hungry flame can become destructive, but a nurtured flame gives light and warmth. I can nurture and love myself. I can accept and embrace love from others. I am a flame of light and warmth. Libra. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on October 30, 2018, 12:03:33 PM Yay! Libra, I love it! So true.
Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 30, 2018, 01:24:26 PM I am glad to see you back and glowing so brightly Libra!
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on October 31, 2018, 08:41:31 AM I am looking for ways to keep on going.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 31, 2018, 01:48:44 PM Silenced partner, reaching out here is good as is posting in this thread.
I am okay. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: isilme on October 31, 2018, 02:45:46 PM I am still here. best I can do today.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 31, 2018, 03:08:39 PM Hi Isilme. Thanks for joining us today. I too am glad you are here today.
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on October 31, 2018, 09:18:16 PM I am too old to go Trick or Treating... .
(https://s3-us-west-2.amazonaws.com/theucenetwork/wp-content/uploads/sites/5/2016/12/28001449/halloween-959006_1920.jpg) Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on October 31, 2018, 10:55:18 PM Wait... . do you want to trick or treat Panda?
I can do this. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on November 01, 2018, 05:36:02 AM I did some self-care.
I am feeling stronger than yesterday. I see a few small successes. Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on November 01, 2018, 06:49:22 AM Yay! silencedPartner!
Nice job! Panda39 Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on November 02, 2018, 07:48:33 AM Thanks I really need the encouragement and I really tried. Lord knows its hard
Title: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Smusher on November 02, 2018, 08:44:39 AM Another day without any contact from uBPDsd. The calm in our lives is amazing and we are thankful.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on November 02, 2018, 09:12:53 AM I am still here. best I can do today. Boy do I get that. I’m here too. At least we’re here together. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 02, 2018, 06:53:25 PM As a reminder for myself, I am. I can. I am valuable.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on November 03, 2018, 06:48:47 AM I am still here. best I can do today. You're not a civil servant are you ?Isilme, I get you, I'm struggling right now. But I'm reminded I am getting better, its taken over four b@*!y years, but I'm getting there. 2 steps forward one back , so I guess I'm dancing forwards. As a reminder for myself, I am. I can. I am valuable. You certainly are Harri.Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harley Quinn on November 03, 2018, 10:47:26 AM As a reminder for myself, I am. I can. I am valuable. The rest of us need no reminder of that Harri. You're a ninja warrior and the world would be all wrong without you in it. Quote from: HappyChappy I am getting better True that. Who was it that famously said 'every day in every way I am getting better and better'? It's a good mirror quote. Quote from: Smusher The calm in our lives is amazing and we are thankful. I am thankful for that too. Long may it last Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 03, 2018, 10:56:56 PM HappyC: I guess I'm dancing forwards
Keep dancing Happy. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 04, 2018, 04:42:31 PM #MyResilientHeart positive “I” statement for the day ~ I completely accept my childhood betrayal, so I do not have to repeat it in my adult relationships.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on November 04, 2018, 05:45:36 PM Nice one Freespirit!
Love it Panda39 Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 05, 2018, 05:21:06 AM Nice one Freespirit! Love it Panda39 Thank you Panda bpdfamily is helping me get clear on that one. blessings for your day! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on November 05, 2018, 09:36:23 AM Today I stood up to the rage and anger and threats of my wife, I stuck to my guns I left the situation. I'm proud and exhausted.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 05, 2018, 12:59:25 PM Feels great doesn't it Silenced Partner?
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on November 05, 2018, 04:07:09 PM Yes! Great ! Also terrifying. But I am trying to focus on the great.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 05, 2018, 04:09:34 PM Yeah, it is terrifying, but over time and with practice and repetition the terror goes away.
I can do in spite of my fear. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on November 06, 2018, 03:11:23 AM You do Harri, you do. Beagle do do.
I am confident the fear will always drain away (even though the Spice Girls have just announced a reunion). Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on November 06, 2018, 07:44:12 AM I always laugh at Happy Chappy's jokes and word play... .you silly man!
I have a good sense of humor Panda39 Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Libra on November 07, 2018, 02:27:08 AM I have the right to put myself first, without feeling guilty.
I do not need to jutify this. Libra. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 07, 2018, 06:38:19 AM I got creative and painted my positive "I" statement for today.
(https://image.ibb.co/dUG1kA/29792259-1822476514728670-607719386844758016-n.jpg) “I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” - Carl Gustav Jung. #MyResilientHeart Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 07, 2018, 09:56:34 AM Beagles and Pandas are funny together!
Libra, damn straight! freespirit, what a great statement and picture! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on November 07, 2018, 11:10:09 AM Loving it Libra!
Thanks for sharing more art freespirit! Pandas and Beagles Rock! I have some nice friends Panda39 Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: silencedPartner on November 07, 2018, 01:25:16 PM This thread has been so amazing for me. Thanks for starting it!
Today I started therapy. What a relief to have a space that’s about me. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on November 08, 2018, 04:20:50 AM Great news silentpartner, you start Therapy. You will now be know as chatty partner.
freespirit I’m loving your pictures, keep them coming. Picasso had a blue period, and you appear to be having a, lets say pink period. Panda and Harri are great forum friends. Here’s a family video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mU83pJMXtho I am no longer living in the past, the future is bright. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on November 08, 2018, 07:09:31 AM Wow... .Lol... .love the video... .I might not sit down for a week! Pesky beagles!
Excerpt I am no longer living in the past, the future is bright. (https://dyn1.heritagestatic.com/lf?set=path%5B1%2F0%2F6%2F1%2F9%2F10619917%5D%2Csizedata%5B850x600%5D&call=url%5Bfile%3Aproduct.chain%5D) Your future's so bright you gotta wear shades... . Panda39 Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 08, 2018, 08:44:05 AM Loved the video happyC. Panda, I knew we would get along great! haha
HappyC, I am very pleased that you are in the present. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 11, 2018, 07:07:08 AM You guys are amazing!
HappyChappy you said - Excerpt freespirit I’m loving your pictures, keep them coming. Picasso had a blue period, and you appear to be having a, lets say pink period. You are a HappyChappy indeed, HappyChappy! Thank you for your kindness. You appear to having a pink period yourself! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 11, 2018, 06:15:04 PM I am capable.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on November 13, 2018, 12:40:39 AM Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 13, 2018, 12:57:12 AM Yes, you are.
and portable: (https://i.pinimg.com/736x/9c/93/68/9c936862b18d54e48f208ef564392b38.jpg) And strong:(https://i.ytimg.com/vi/8uXrgv1xIFk/maxresdefault.jpg) And awesome: (https://i.pinimg.com/originals/fa/27/ac/fa27ac19ac0265a9c61b73e4b078f6bb.jpg) Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on November 13, 2018, 01:17:22 AM Portable, strong and awesome, I like the way you think!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on November 13, 2018, 02:22:28 AM I am parrotable A beagle would pronounce that "palatable". I am part of an awesome tribe, full of colo(u)r and warmth. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 13, 2018, 02:35:56 AM Uh Oh, Parrot, watch out, that beagle is hungry!
Yes, you are HappyC. Thanks for adding to the colour and warmth! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on November 13, 2018, 07:47:09 AM Love the Parrot montage!
I am a caring Panda Panda39 Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 13, 2018, 06:20:56 PM Love the Parrot montage! Me too, Panda! Today is world kindness day, so my postive "I" statement for today is in thanks to Pete Walker and his quote from Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. "Become an unflinching source of kindness and self-compassion for yourself" - Pete Walker. #MyResilientHeart Positive Affirmation. (https://image.ibb.co/dsnuLA/20728303-361654564253856-8038591411389369096-n.jpg) (http://www.<img src="https://image.ibb.co/dsnuLA/20728303-361654564253856-8038591411389369096-n.jpg" alt="20728303-361654564253856-8038591411389369096-n" border="0" />) I am becoming an unflinching source of kindness and self-compassion for myself! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 13, 2018, 06:23:06 PM Nice one freespirit!
I've been wondering how you are doing so start a thread when you get a chance! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 14, 2018, 09:00:03 AM Nice one freespirit! I've been wondering how you are doing so start a thread when you get a chance! Thank you Harri :hi: The next moves for me - More than anything I want to create a space for some kind of online Pete Walker book club/study group - in particular the blue book, Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. I just know for sure that reading the book and sharing my process with it out loud with others also on the journey, and doing the same, will be much more powerful than trying to do it on my own. I wonder if there are any other's here who might be interested in joining me in this recovery process? #PETEWALKERROCKS Freespirit Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 14, 2018, 09:46:41 AM Hi. Why not just start threads here on the topics of your choice? We talk about Pete Walker quite a bit here.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 15, 2018, 05:01:24 AM Hi. Why not just start threads here on the topics of your choice? We talk about Pete Walker quite a bit here. Thanks, Harri Whilst walking through the 'dark night of the soul', I set up an empowerment project to inspire myself and my family into recovery. Its called The Gifts Of Thriving, and is a youth led, inter-generational self empowerment movement, and a self-study, self-exploration and self empowerment, expressive arts book club. It is based around 2 books - The Gifts Of Imperfection by Brene Brown and Complex PTSD: From Surviving To Thriving by Pete Walker. (Neither of which I have read completely myself) So far its just been a private family project, but it feels like the time might be right for opening it up to anyone else who also resonates. Posting about Pete Walker on bpdfamily is an excellent idea, and at the same time I would love the group to have its own culture, and it would need its own space for that to happen. So, I am not sure where I am going to host the group, but for now its parked here www.myresilientheart.com/ (http://www.myresilientheart.com/) Freespirit Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on November 15, 2018, 09:22:06 AM Posting about Pete Walker on bpdfamily is an excellent idea. Freespirit great idea I'd happly support that. Also like your expressive arts group - I love the blue rider expressionists.I am ready to face the fear of CPTSD, just as soon as I put my brown pants on.** **trousers if your from England, Wales, Scotland, Northern Ireland, Souther Ireland, New Zealand or Australia. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 15, 2018, 03:11:41 PM HappyC:
Excerpt I am ready to face the fear of CPTSD, just as soon as I put my brown pants on.** Joking aside though, I am confident in your ability to face this. I am standing right beside you too.Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 16, 2018, 08:07:42 AM #ThePhoenixKnows that your permission is not required for my existence.
(https://image.ibb.co/dzfZ9f/quotes-Your-permission-is-n.jpg) (http://www.<img src="https://image.ibb.co/dzfZ9f/quotes-Your-permission-is-n.jpg" alt="quotes-Your-permission-is-n" border="0">) #MyResilientHeart Positive "I" Statement - I matter! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on November 18, 2018, 06:26:24 AM #MyResilientHeart Positive "I" Statement - I matter! You matter indeed freespirited Cosmic A beagle would pronounce that "palatable". Hmmmm... .you always gotta be careful with those rowdy beagles! Good thing I got my beagle repellent if necessary (https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/71cewJYc-IL._SY355_.jpg) I am part of an awesome tribe, full of colo(u)r and warmth. Also full of humo(u)r! The Board Parrot Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 18, 2018, 04:11:58 PM #ThePhoenixKnows not being able to psychologically trust your parents is :cursing: up. No child should ever have to go through that!
#MyResilientHeart positive "I" statement ~ I love you Inner Child! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 20, 2018, 11:00:50 AM #ThePhoenixKnows we must bring ALL of ourselves to life. #MyResilientHeart positive "I" statement ~ I invite myself to birth ALL of ME into this life.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on November 20, 2018, 12:55:27 PM I invite myself to birth ALL of ME into this life. Wow! Since you're Cosmic The Cat, I guess we can call this the birth of the cosmos then! Amazing Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 20, 2018, 06:15:31 PM LOL Kwamina! Thanks for that.
I have hilarious friends. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 21, 2018, 06:11:28 AM You guys are amazing. I am so honored to be here with you!
MyResilientHeart positive "I" statement ~ I See your playfulness, I Feel your love, and I Know I am in the company of Masters. Parrot, I love it when you make Harri Laugh Harri, I love it when you laugh at the Parrot Thank you, I you guys! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 22, 2018, 09:37:24 AM #MyResilientHeart Positive "I" statement ~ I give myself permission to come Home. #SoulFamily
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 24, 2018, 06:11:28 PM I am responsible.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Panda39 on November 24, 2018, 06:18:39 PM (https://i.etsystatic.com/8439163/r/il/f96504/520596327/il_570xN.520596327_j69c.jpg)
Panda39 Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 25, 2018, 06:00:17 PM Still full Panda?
I have times of peace and am grateful for them. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on November 26, 2018, 01:19:55 PM I am proud to be part of BPDfmaily, because say what you like, we have very interesting stories**
** this is according to my daughter, who’s just had her first story published - Yeah ! Panda if thanks giving is about goodwill to all, why not let the Turkeys go free ? Kwamina I had a black and white rescue cat called Cosmo, because she was enormous. From a distance she looked like a Friesian cow. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 26, 2018, 01:49:24 PM Awww, congrats to your daughter HappyC! How proud you sound!
I am okay with being vulnerable... .for now. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 28, 2018, 04:55:40 AM #ThePhoenixKnows ~ The only thing that really matters is that we get back up.
#MyResilientHeart Positive Statement ~ I give myself permission to rise from the ashes. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Kwamina on November 28, 2018, 05:08:58 AM #MyResilientHeart Positive Statement ~ I give myself permission to rise from the ashes. So you're like a Cosmic Phoenix? Wow, the story keeps getting more fantastic! Like The Fantastic Cosmic Phoenix @HappyChappy Congrats on your daughter getting her first story published That's a great milestone! Kwamina I had a black and white rescue cat called Cosmo, because she was enormous. From a distance she looked like a Friesian cow. Cosmo The Friesian Cat Cow, yet another super amazing animal Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on November 28, 2018, 09:44:28 AM I am going through rough water, again, only this time I've got snacks. There is nothing a bpdfamily member can not do. I'm in the bus lane of life and I'm not getting out, not even for the Police !
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Recycle on November 28, 2018, 11:01:55 AM I am guided by silent love and friendship around me!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on November 28, 2018, 04:05:52 PM <passes a life ring to HappyC>
Hi Recycle Glad you joined us I care. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on November 28, 2018, 06:36:20 PM The Fantastic Cosmic Phoenix and Cosmo The Friesian Cat Cow, sound all set for a magical adventure!
I salute you CRB HappyChappy sending some sunshine vibes your way I love what you wrote Recycle, thank you for sharing Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on December 02, 2018, 12:06:44 PM I forgive myself! "I have a right to make mistakes. Mistakes do not make me a mistake. Every mistake or mishap is an opportunity to practice loving myself in the places I have never been loved." - Pete Walker. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 02, 2018, 01:47:35 PM Freespirit, that is a fantastic statement and shows a lot of progress!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Manifest32f on December 02, 2018, 02:21:54 PM Hi : I love the strength in all of you and I am reminding myself that I am strong and we shalt all overcome this together and find peace and tranquility in our lives and in our loved ones lives!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 02, 2018, 02:55:21 PM Hi Manifest and thanks for dropping in!
We are strong individually and as a group. Glad you joined us. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on December 03, 2018, 08:19:21 AM Freespirit, that is a fantastic statement and shows a lot of progress! Thank you so much Harri I hope you have a wonderful day! #ThePhoenixKnows ~ your opinion of me, does NOT define me. red-flag #MyResilientHeart Positive Statement ~ I define ME! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Manifest32f on December 03, 2018, 11:04:29 PM I am strong and very loving to all I come in contact with and I am very proud of what I have achieved over the years!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on December 04, 2018, 04:26:30 AM I am strong and very loving to all I come in contact Manifest32f can I borrow a thousand dollars please ? I am still getting better, yipeee ! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: zachira on December 04, 2018, 09:17:17 AM Most of the time, I get to choose what kind of contact I have with my family members with BPD and NPD. I always have a choice on how I respond to the contact.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 04, 2018, 09:49:27 AM I really like reading these.
Zachira, talk about empowering yourself! Manifest, yours speaks to knowing who you are and I think that is wonderful! HappyC, I am celebrating right beside you! I am so glad to hear you are doing better. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on December 05, 2018, 01:12:13 PM #ThePhoenixKnows As I remember, I forgive and support myself.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 14, 2018, 12:30:05 AM I can do this!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: zachira on December 14, 2018, 09:00:20 AM Some days are better than others. When I feel the occasional sadness and anger towards how cruel my mother and siblings with BPD and NPD can be towards me and others, I take the high road: I let myself be vulnerable and cry. I let the moment pass and then I go on being the best person I can be, and continue to do my best to treat myself and others with kindness and compassion.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on December 14, 2018, 09:15:13 AM Harri YES you can!
zachira Wow! This is incredible recovery, thank you for sharing I am dedicated to my recovery. I can use everything that is happening in my life as an opportunity to learn, heal and grow. I am grateful for this opportunity to become better than I was the day before. I have my eye on the goal. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: MyBPD_friend on December 14, 2018, 09:36:15 AM I love my healthy wife
I love my children I accept myself with my faults I'm happy to have stopped every contact with my quite BPD female friend I do feel as a whole valuable person Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 14, 2018, 11:53:07 AM freespirit, that is a wonderful statement full of positive attitude. As difficult and as painful as recovery work can be it is exciting and so full of wonder to me as I wonder what I will discover next. It is quite the adventure!
MyBPDfriend, hello! That is a great list of positive I statements! Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on December 15, 2018, 04:49:33 AM I am unbreakable, in spirit.
My NPD bro can break bones, but he never and I mean never, broke my sprite. Although it was a close call on a couple of occasions. Never blink, never show weakness, never get wound up, never back down and never throw the first punch. Since age 14 I’ve not been in a fight despite being brought up in a rough area. The trick is to move to a nice area and not tell your NPD relatives. Oh, and use humour to defuse the tension. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 18, 2018, 06:08:39 PM I have friends.
(this is huge for me to say) Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 18, 2018, 10:16:57 PM I am making a difference!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: once removed on December 18, 2018, 10:36:18 PM i feel good!
... .na na na na na na na Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on December 18, 2018, 10:50:04 PM That is great Once!
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on December 25, 2018, 04:10:30 PM #MyResilientHeart positive I statement - I want to know the truth more than I want to be comfortable. #Remembering
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: freespirit on December 25, 2018, 06:43:22 PM #MyResilientHeart Positive I statement - Just for today I shall be Happy!
Lyrics - "Hey, what's happened to our lives? When did you and me forget how to have a good time? Hey, we got to make some time for the stuff that you can't buy And get a life 'cos you know all that serious stuff ain't no fun Who says you can't be happy all the time? I know but I'm still gonna try." Lighthouse Family - Happy (Ferry Corsten Remix) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yxgd2A7SeFA (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yxgd2A7SeFA) Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: quietgirl on December 26, 2018, 08:37:18 AM I helped my family come to realize my sister's BPD diagnosis and it can help us all move forward together.
Thank you for the positive, its hard to remember it is there with so much negative. Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: HappyChappy on December 26, 2018, 10:49:35 AM Well said quietgirl. We need to be positive, I'm positive it will rain later (I'm in England) but that the sun will alway shine. I'm positive most of us on here will improve, its just a matter of how quickly.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Only Human on December 28, 2018, 10:49:05 PM I am a good mom and grandma.
~ OH Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Manifest32f on December 30, 2018, 10:21:36 PM I am very affectionate, caring and considerate and am not going to let anyone say otherwise! I am going to do all I can to validate my uBPDd which is very essential for me to establish a loving relationship with her. Please take care.
Title: Re: Once a day, post your own positive “I” statement Post by: Harri on January 03, 2019, 07:13:41 PM Each day is an opportunity to start over... .
there is an I statement in there somewhere I swear! |