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Title: Daughter issuing ultimatums Post by: ninaj on December 03, 2018, 12:20:41 PM My 19 year old daughter has BPD. I am a single mom raising my two children alone (19 year old daughter who has BPD and 7 year old son). I have been single for 8 years. I have recently started dating a very loving man. My daughter is furious about this new relationship and is reacting violently towards it.
It is so difficult and so painful. She gave me an ultimatum... .him or her. How can I make that choice? Title: Re: Daughter issuing ultimatums Post by: Feeling Better on December 03, 2018, 06:53:52 PM Hello ninaj :hi:
I would like to welcome you here and say how sorry I am to hear of what brought you here. I am so pleased for you that after being single for eight years, you have recently started dating again. Your daughter giving you an ultimatum, either her or him is very cruel and my heart goes out to you. I had a similar situation with my uBPD son, regarding my daughter, his sister. Although he didn’t give me an ultimatum he told me that I had sacrificed my relationship with him for my relationship with my daughter. I told him that wasn’t the case and that I wanted to have a relationship with both him and my daughter but sadly for me it just fell on deaf ears. I imagine it must be really difficult for you when your daughter reacts in a violent manner, are you able to discuss your new relationship with her when she is calm? You have raised her and your young son as a single parent, she is an adult now, and you need a life too x |