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Children, Parents, or Relatives with BPD => Parent, Sibling, or In-law Suffering from BPD => Topic started by: BlackArmoire on December 24, 2018, 02:11:27 PM



Title: More drama
Post by: BlackArmoire on December 24, 2018, 02:11:27 PM
I'm posting yet again. 

UBPDm has tried calling several times today.  Per her request that I no longer contact her, except to send a letter in the mail to state when I would pick up the remaining things from her house, I haven't responded.  Now she's threatened to call the police because I won't respond.

There's nothing to do about her actions, but I'm on edge.  I'm not doing anything out of the ordinary and am trying to relax.


Title: Re: More drama
Post by: Harri on December 24, 2018, 03:52:23 PM
Hi.  Posting is good.

Would you want to text her back and say "I am fine" and leave it at that?  I am trying to think of the least potentially explosive way to respond though I am not sure there is one. 

I understand not taking her call because she requested you to not contact her.  How do you think she sees it?  Do you think she forgot?  Has she done this before?

Sorry, just trying to think this through.


Title: Re: More drama
Post by: BlackArmoire on December 24, 2018, 07:28:47 PM
Hello.

Thanks for your post.  She has indeed done this before.  She disowns me, tells me not to contact her, then tries to contact me.  No, she has not forgotten; rather, she is testing to see if I'll bite, which I have not.  She has zero respect for boundaries and she knows that I called her bluff about the police.  No police have come looking for me so far. 


Title: Re: More drama
Post by: Harri on December 24, 2018, 08:27:51 PM
Hi BlackA.

Good for you for calling her bluff then. 

When this has happened before how is contact then reestablished?