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Merry Christmas and happy holidays to you all!

Despite the hardships I’ve faced this year, I have been blessed even more so.  One of the greatest blessings has been all of you on this board. 

In you, I found a place where I belonged and people I belonged with.  As we are supporting each other through the difficult moments moments with love , understanding and acceptance, we help each other to heal and grow.

You may feel some sadness this day as you are reminded of how your family structure or holiday traditions are different now than they were in the past.  It’s ok to feel that sadness.  I feel it too.  Let that emotion pass through you and know that all of it has been for a purpose - so that you may grow and heal yourself;  that the lessons you have learned in this place will move you to better places in the future.

You are not alone.  You belong here and you are loved and respected.  We belong to each other.

I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you all on this day and sending out my best Care Bear Stare of love to all of you!

If you are feeling down or like you do not have a family,  please watch this video (just substitute Christmas for Thanksgiving):

https://www.facebook.com/173032013364332/videos/485258251882845 (https://www.facebook.com/173032013364332/videos/485258251882845)

Care Bear Stare

Lol.   

Interesting video.  It reminds me of what my therapist told me years ago,  which was especially important since I never had a dash and was/am "inventing" fatherhood.  He said something like, "Moses knew God face-to-face,  and that defined who he was. Similarly,  kids pick know who they are due to their parents." He was describing healthy mirroring.   I thought I was pretty good with my kids,  but sometimes I'd tell them while looking straight into their eyes up close, "I love you." They'd literally coo and metaphorically melt into my arms.  This is the kind of mirroring our pwBPD never had and likely not a few of us as well. 

The “Care Bear Stare” cracked me up as well. Thanks for the sentiment, EG. I hope that you’ve had a nice holiday. You’re right, we are together in things. I’m glad that you see that. I’m glad that I do as well.

My Christmas was filled with laughter and gratefulness for how well my Son was treated. I was pretty taken aback at what my Son received seeing as how he and I aren’t family to the people I’ve described.

My friend and I stayed up late together watching comedy and laughing. We had constrive conversation in between. It was a good Christmas.

Turkish, I do the same thing. I’ve told my Son that I love him at least 5 times today and have kissed his head equally. I have to take him to his grandmother in a few hours. It always hurts to say bye. He’s sitting beside me cuddled up in a blanket watching a cartoon. It’s hard to spend days away from him. It was a good Christmas.

Hi, Educated_Guess.  :hi: Thanks for the warm and sweet holiday greeting! 

How are you doing today now that Christmas Day has passed?