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Title: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 10, 2019, 10:14:15 PM Just an update. DS24 the weed dealer wBPD was told by his landlord to vacate his apartment by yesterday because other tenants complained about marijuana smoke coming from his apartment. Several deals for a new apartment fell through. He is under a lot of pressure right now. He stopped by our house yesterday and was very sweet to us both but I could tell he was stressed. No doubt he is still shaken by the robbery (remember he was robbed at gunpoint in his apartment this week. Oh the joys of the criminal lifestyle) My husband is going to see if they can go apartment hunting tomorrow. The good news is our relationship with him is way better. The bad news is his lifestyle
We soo wish he would rethink his choices. I have hope he will. I have to. Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: Only Human on January 10, 2019, 11:38:28 PM Thanks for the update, FHLKC!
It's good you're standing firm on DS living elsewhere, while still supporting him with these recent changes, events. I'm so happy to hear that your relationship is way better, that must be such a relief for you all! ~ OH Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 10, 2019, 11:46:59 PM Thank you OH. It has not been easy but his father and I are learning to accept him for who he is. Obviously we don't agree with all of his choices. DS knows that. But we love him unconditionally.
Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: wendydarling on January 11, 2019, 12:08:13 PM FHLKC while my DD is not a weed dealer I do believe when we accept them for who they are they grow, we grow, the relationship can 'blossom' we're not banging our heads against things out of our control. You mentioned in another post weed is about to be legalised, how will that change things for your son? Wishing you a peaceful weekend, you sure deserve it.
WDx Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 12, 2019, 03:27:20 AM I am not sure how legalizing marijuana will affect my son. He may or may not "go legit." He has talked about purchasing a dispensary but it is very costly.
Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: wendydarling on January 12, 2019, 04:05:59 AM Thanks for sharing that FHLKC. I hope he finds somewhere to settle soon, keep us posted.
Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 12, 2019, 05:33:31 AM Thanks
I will keep you posted. I am hoping this move will be good for him. There are many bad memories associated with the apartment he lives in now. He initially shared it with his GF Then they broke up. Now the robbery. He needs a fresh start. Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: Only Human on January 12, 2019, 09:52:51 PM Hi again,
I agree, he needs a fresh start and it's great you are supporting his efforts. How did the apartment hunting go with his dad? ~ OH Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: Only Human on January 12, 2019, 10:18:53 PM I see you've posted about what I asked about - I'll see you in your other thread
~ OH Title: Re: Son needs place to live - not with us Post by: Mirsa on February 03, 2019, 03:24:52 PM So glad to see how you've managed to love and support him without rescuing him and letting him move back in. Thank you for sharing that, as I'm sure I will be in that position in a few months to a year. I hope to hold strong and appreciated seeing what you did to support him in a loving way, but also protect yourselves and the peace of your home.
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