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Title: apartment drama part 2 Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 13, 2019, 11:45:20 AM My husband texted my son about looking for an apartment. DS says "leave me alone. I will just move home." NOO
Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 13, 2019, 11:59:30 AM I feel like my DH does not have good boundaries. He knows our DS can't move back in the house. He sells illegal weed. We could literally lose the house if he moved back. What is more it would be horrible for all of us. We already went through hell with him here. Why is it so hard to say NO? I said NO a year ago. DH agreed but he softened it making it look like I was the "bad guy." Now the nightmare begins again. I can't take it.
Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: Only Human on January 13, 2019, 04:25:07 PM Saying "No" IS hard, FHLKC, you're right about that! I think it's hard for me because I fear my DD's reaction when I say "no." I want her to understand the WHY, to nod and say, "Oh, I never thought about it that way, you're right." Needless to say, that rarely happens
In another thread you said you weren't in a good place right now. That's understandable with what you're facing, what DS is facing, you also might be wondering if DH has your back "this time." I really encourage you to take some time for self-care. It seems impossible in times of stress and chaos, and those of us with caretaker traits are not good at it. I'm learning, with the help of my Therapist and all the wonderful people here who encourage me, inspire me. Here's a link to a thread discussing self-care. Better Self Care (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=329249.0) I'm coming out of a chaotic episode this morning between my DD and her paternal grandmother, so I understand not being in a good place. Keep posting, reading, learning, and supporting others, allow us to support you. It really does help to talk it out. ~ OH Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: wendydarling on January 14, 2019, 01:08:54 AM Hi there FHLKC I can understand how upsetting it is for you, your DS even thinking it's an option, after the hell you went through with him in your home.
The text was to your DH, has he not responded? Hang in there! WDx Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 14, 2019, 01:54:04 AM Oh. I was not sure what the text was.
Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 15, 2019, 01:33:36 PM Guess who is looking at an apartment now. See my smiley face? )
Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: Only Human on January 15, 2019, 03:02:27 PM I'm smiling along with you, FHLKC! ~ OH Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: FaithHopeLove on January 15, 2019, 03:40:18 PM This apartment wasn't the right one but at least they are looking
Title: Re: apartment drama part 2 Post by: wendydarling on January 15, 2019, 03:42:57 PM Woohoo
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