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Title: What does it mean when she says she wants “space”? Post by: trumpetjazzman on January 20, 2019, 09:26:52 AM First time poster, glad to be here. My girlfriend with BPD (in therapy but not officially diagnosed) and I have been together for 2 years. Despite ups and downs, she now doesn’t seem to think we are compatible and said recently she wants “space.” I’ve texted her once in the week we’ve been apart and she said that she still loves and misses me.
I love her very much and want to continue working on our relationship if she remains in therapy. This hurts so much. I want to reach out to her, but know that probably won't help. I just feel lost and so sad. She has been between therapists now for a few weeks. Her mother seems to still scare her the most in her life and I believe they are enmeshed. Her depression seems to be at its worst, now. Any words of wisdom you could offer would be great. Thanks. -Jazzman Title: Re: What does it mean when she says she wants “space”? Post by: once removed on January 20, 2019, 07:21:18 PM hi trumpetjazzman and *welcome*
texting her once in the week is definitely giving her space. its good not to flood or crowd her emotionally. "space" can mean a lot of things though. can you tell us more about what led up to this, and what she said? Title: Re: What does it mean when she says she wants “space”? Post by: Copycat2018 on January 20, 2019, 11:13:59 PM Hi,
Has it ever happened before? Can you tell more about your common history As you see it? Thanks! Title: Re: What does it mean when she says she wants “space”? Post by: trumpetjazzman on March 11, 2019, 08:29:35 PM Hi,
Thanks to the responders to my post! I've been meaning to return to the site, and I'm glad I have. Our relationship has had its rocky periods, but I believe my knowledge of BPD has allowed me to understand some of her triggers that can set off her rage, such as questioning her regarding if she might have a drinking problem. Right now we are back together, only to learn that she had missed a few doses of her birth control accidentally and now is pregnant and we are unmarried. I need to do a new post addressing this because it has brought us to the brink. |