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Title: what does it mean? Post by: radoe on January 30, 2019, 02:48:10 PM wants to go to church suddenly
(still does not want to wear wedding rings) (still looks and act profoundly sad at home around me and the boys) (still refuses to see Psychologist) (started to read love notes again in the morning) (started to eat chocolates hidden around the house) (went to dr. due to crippling pain) Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: Sandb2015 on January 30, 2019, 03:01:19 PM Hello Fatherpeace,
Does she want to go together? Are you hopeful? Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: radoe on January 30, 2019, 03:46:56 PM yes she wants to go together
My hope is high My mind and body are tired Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: WileyCoyote on January 30, 2019, 03:48:41 PM Nothing... .except what it means to her.
In other words, it means she is at the very least depressed and needs professional help. You can't help. Hopefully SHE will find her way there. All you can do is be compassionate about her pain, but remember it is not yours. How about YOU? How are you doing? Have people outside your relationship you can talk to? A therapist of your own? Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: radoe on January 30, 2019, 03:56:56 PM I have a psychologist therapist,
She started to see him too but quit We also have a psychologist marriage counselor, that I saw last time by myself I was complaining to my sister and some of my friends but the marriage psychologist says that is not good, because my friends with have resentment towards her when the marriage improves. So I found this site. I am hanging in there. She wants to die, and people that want to die don't live very long. The doctor noted a while back that she is malnourished, (really thin) Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: Sandb2015 on January 30, 2019, 03:59:01 PM Fatherpeace,
She is reaching out. Do you have what you need (tools) to proceed? You need them for you and her. You need a further plan if you have the hope. I feel good about your hope. This is good news it seems, how do you feel about it? Baby steps... . Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: radoe on January 30, 2019, 04:00:31 PM I feel good
going home Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: Sandb2015 on January 30, 2019, 04:02:00 PM I've thought about the resentment, confusion and anger that may linger in the extended family circle, that should not really effect the outcome of your hopes and goals.
Hope is beautiful , it's not a means to help, it may just give you what you need to see clearly. Title: Re: what does it mean? Post by: WileyCoyote on January 30, 2019, 04:10:36 PM I'm glad you are finding support and are talking to some more knowledgeable people. Good for you on working on yourself!
The best thing you can do for your wife is to find your own happiness and share it with her. You can't make her happy. I wish it was like in the movies. |