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Is it common for pwBPD to have psychotic episodes? It seems to go beyond distorted thoughts sometimes. There is a good chance that alcohol could be involved (long distance relationship) or sleep deprivation. His acting out behaviors (drinking, over-eating, Ambien or Adderall do excaserbate his BPD but sometimes I swear it seems like a state of psychosis but I am not trained in that field.  How dangerous is it to be around pwBPD when they are in this state of extreme emotion and distorted thoughts? It is impossible to talk them down or out of their thoughts and into reality when they are like this.

Dysregulations can be very scary sometimes. I've seen some very alarming ones with my H.

Could you describe a particular incident? Having details may help us be able to help and advise you better.

I may not do it justice off the top of my head Bc there has been so much in the last 2yrs. I gave up keeping track.  I did wake up today to texts from 3am saying the usual... .accusing me of having other men in my life or not loving him and then saying he knows too much. When he gets extreme, he acts like he reallllllly knows things are going on behind his back. This should go without saying I have had zero contact with other men.  He has accused me of having sex with strangers at a resort while I was on a vacation with my daughter. He has accused me of having sex w men while (during) texting him at night. There have been times when on vacation together that I have had to leave him Bc he goes into these rabbit holes of thinking I’ve been sleeping  w other men and treats me like I should just admit these things to him. One time he was literally pacing the hotel room suite allllll night long. Never went to sleep. I couldn’t leave until the next morning (went to a female relative’s house) and was a bit terrified that night when I went to sleep not sure what he was capable of. No matter what I said or did, he could not come up from his rabbit holes.  He continued to send me crazy texts for the next 3-4 days while he was alone that suite. Accusing me of leaving to see other men... .in a city where I knew no other men.
 He cannot stop talking about exes from 10-20 yrs ago and any pics of me from back then drive him insane. He has also accused me of touching (unattractive!) men in a pool that we were in together!
When he comes out of this extreme state, he is consumed w shame and cries. He admits there is no valid reason for his thoughts. It is very hard for him to admit to the things he said or did. He admits what a good person I am. He def has the splitting down. He loves me and then he tries to slut shame me with zero reason.
He has a very important high Corp job. Let’s just say that it is so important and on the right side of things that it makes him a very decent person. He is constantly invited to give speeches at conferences around the world on let’s just call it decency so I don’t give away too much info here.  He has a very hard time reconciling or facing his abusive or psychotic behavior w me. It goes against everything he stands for. Just this week, he is now asking me if I plan on blackmailing him with his abusive and crazy texts to me. Not sure what that’s about.
So I’m wondering about safety and wondering if it is psychosis or maybe dissociation?

There is a lot of documented commorbidity of personality disorders with other mental health problems, try not to get too wrapped up in "is this part of BPD?".

If safety is a concern I do encourage you to keep your support network going (family, friends, acquaintances/coworkers, these boards!) in case something feels off and you need to act.


Details like Ozzie mentions are important so everyone gets a better idea of your situation.

There seems to be a theme of infidelity, any thoughts on to why this could be? past relationships, parents/family of his doing it, him doing it before?