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Title: Was I in the wrong? Post by: Granite Chief on February 08, 2019, 02:50:26 PM Hi! I am working on giving more details here.
She found some jacket that is not hers. I don't cheat and never will. She says she understands I am not cheating but she is obsessing about the jacket. After 12 hours I was like it looks like you do not believe me. She described it as her biggest fear. I am like what someone leaving their jacket here? I started to get agitated so she started to get mad at me because I did not praise her for not blowing up like usual. She currently hates me and does not trust me. I have lost her trust. Was I in the wrong? Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: once removed on February 08, 2019, 02:57:13 PM do you know who the jacket belongs to, and where it was found?
Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: radoe on February 08, 2019, 03:59:40 PM What plausible explanation do you have where the jacket came from?
Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: Granite Chief on February 08, 2019, 05:39:26 PM It was found in her cloths when she was folding them after the wash.
The only thing I can figure is it was one of her friends or it was a hand me down. She sometimes gets hand me down clothes. I think it is super strange but it makes her feel safe because she doesn't spend money. I have a 17 year old daughter but she has not been over for a few months. Maybe the sitter for our son but I seriously doubt this one. Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: once removed on February 08, 2019, 05:48:56 PM shes asking you about a jacket she found in her own clothes... .do i have that right?
Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: Granite Chief on February 08, 2019, 05:51:50 PM Yes! she was folding her clothes and realized a sweatshirt was not hers. She instantly split and was overwhelmed with insecurities.
I was like... .I did not cheat do not put that stress on me. Must of came from your end. Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: once removed on February 08, 2019, 05:53:42 PM well, i wouldnt necessarily respond so defensively. that can make us look guilty or like we have something to hide.
unless shes accusing you of cheating, i wouldnt have brought that up. just puts the idea out there. Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: Granite Chief on February 08, 2019, 06:05:17 PM Should we thank the Borderline for not flipping out on me?
I see both sides of this argument I think. Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: once removed on February 08, 2019, 06:06:41 PM which argument?
Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: Granite Chief on February 08, 2019, 06:11:33 PM She split and did not cuss, throw stuff and run out.
Title: Re: Was I in the wrong? Post by: once removed on February 08, 2019, 06:17:26 PM oh. positive reinforcement is good, but i wouldnt thank her for not flipping out, no.
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