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My ex ended things last week and after a couple days of circular texts and arguments, I decided I needed to go NC.  I unfriended and blocked her on social media for my own mental health.  But this morning she texted me asking if I had blocked her phone number too.  So far I haven't texted back but I'm struggling.  The codependent in me wants to talk to her and be there for her, but I know it's not good for my well being.  I'm trying to have strength but it's hard.  I'm sure she's probably just trying to get attention.  What do you do when your ex texts you?

I thinks it is simple. If you want to work things out with her then text her back, if not let her know you need a break and you are going to block her. If you go the NC route stay strong brother it is not an easy task.

Hey there, crazyinlove77. Welcome to bpdfamily. :hi: Contact from an ex so shortly after a break up can feel very confusing. In a lot of our cases here within this community, overwhelming. There’s a whole lot of emotion swimming around in us. If you’re reluctant to respond to her, I would say don’t. At least not now. It sounds like you’re trying to give yourself emotional space. Trust your actions. There is nothing wrong with allowing yourself some breathing room.

Many of us here have the same concerns that you do. What really helps is discussion. If you’re comfortable, will you give us some details about your relationship? How long were the two of you together? What caused the breakup and how are you feeling about it?

To answer your question, sparse communication is best between my ex and me. We share a young child so communication is necessary. I wish that I could just cut her out. I know that she feels the same about me. Do you feel that communication with her will benefit you? Glad to have you with us.