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Dd17 is being discharged from Timberline Knolls tomorrow (2/15) and is set to start PHP at Insight BHC in Oak Brook, IL. We have the 90 minute intake call today. Fingers crossed things go well and the number of weeks they suggest is reasonable to her. 

We live 4.5 hours from Illinois so dd17 is staying between my husband’s two sisters that live in Chicago. Let me tell you about the anxiety that is causing dh and myself. She can usually keep it together as long as she doesn’t feel threatened or nagged. Both SIL’s have small children. Fingers crossed she doesn’t swear or act out. DH has made it clear the first time she steps a toe out of line we’re in the car going to get her.

I’ve posted in another thread, but I’ll throw it out there again.DD has been inpatient and rtc since 1/18 and will do PHP for 4-7 weeks more. Please help me get my expectations in check. I’m SO hopeful in the most cautious way. I’m also going to family to family through NAMI to help all of ise the same vocabulary and help me learn to help and support her without a. Losing myself anymore than I already have and b. Not give in to the pressure she applies for me to do things for her that she’s completely capable of doing (online homework, canceling and rescheduling appointments, budgeting the 100 a week we’ll give her to ensure she has gas money for the week to get to PHP).

I know I’ve thrown a lot of questions out there. I’d love to hear any suggestions or from those that have Been through Insight BHC in Chicago or Oak Brook.

Thanks!

Hi MjoBPD

I don't have any experience with BHC, sorry. I hope the intake call will answer your questions.

I can understand your anxiety regarding the arrangements with your DH's sisters. I think you're wise to have a plan in place, shared with your DD, if things go sour.


It sounds like you are doing all you can to ensure the best outcome. I think being realistic in your expectations will help you get through these next weeks. As you may already know, success is related to your DD's willingness to participate in treatment, take responsibility for her behaviors and emotions.

I wish you the very best and keep us posted!

~ OH

Hello!

 My DD27 went to Insight in Chicago 1.5 years ago after she hit rock bottom and was in the hospital for 10 days. She was ready to go into treatment,  but wanted to quit every day because itis hard work. She ended up in this treatment for 3 months then quit. It helped her alot. We thought the treatment was good and it helped. My only complaint is that when you are released you have to go out and find another Dr. and therapist. The one referral we received from Insight did not return our phone calls.  We did find a Dr. who keeps her up on her meds and provides therapy once a week. So far it's working but now we are discussing returning  to Insight for the part time DBT classes which meet twice a week in the evenings.
Insight is known for treating eating disorders.
I have a friend who we met through the NAMI family to family class that went to Insight and her DD30 did not like it and quit. So I think it may be different for everyone. Good Luck I hope it works out for you!

Cornelia

Cornelia thank you for the information. Dd17 is not happy about being “forced” to do this and has been awful to me since we picked her up from TK. We don’t live in Illinois and there are no phps in our area for under 18. I’m taking FMLA time to stay I’m here. At my in-laws with her so I can drive her there and back each day. I’m back to walking on eggshells waiting for the day she refuses to get up and go with me. I feel awful but she doesn’t seem to want to do the work or even understand why we’d think she needs to. I feel badly because she’s forever telling us she’s not going to finish the 2 online courses she has before graduation and she’s not coming home after this she’s going somewhere warm. At this point half my heart says go ahead. She has no money, we obviously wouldn’t let her take the car we’ve given her and if she goes down her path she’ll be two courses shy of a high school diploma. The other half thinks of all the ways she could be hurt along with what she might do for money. I don’t see an end to her awful behavior in sight... .despite Timberline Knolls glowing reviews. Not surprised after she told the people in the ER she knew just what to say after all her inpatient stays and would just come home and finish the job.