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Title: Which books have helped you most? Post by: Skip on March 08, 2019, 11:03:16 AM Which books have you found most helpful? Not helpful? We can help others alot by sahring out thoughts on who has it right and what is just another junk psychology book.
Here is a listing of our ongoing book reviews/discussions: ALPHABETICAL LISTING A Balanced Life: Coping with a Mentally Ill Loved One - Tom Smith (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=106988) A Good Soldier - Ally Golden (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=305938) Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents ~ Lindsay Gibson. PsyD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=329472) Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families - John Friel (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=132795) An Adult Child's Guide to What's "Normal" (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=123771) An Umbrella for Alex - Rachel Rashkin, MS (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56239) Attached - Amir Levine, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=224638) Borderline Personality Disorder ~ Alexander L. Chapman PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=315212) Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified - Robert O. Friedel, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=55720) Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents - Blaise A. Aguirre, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=65571) Borderline Personality Disorder Survival Guide - Alex Chapman PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=65574) Boundaries - Henry Cloud PhD, John Townsend PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=59097) Brain-Based Parenting - Daniel A. Hughes, Ph.D. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=195469) Character Disturbance - George K. Simon Jr., PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=171822) Children Held Hostage - Stanley S. Clawar, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=91236) Children of the Self Absorbed - Nina W. Brown (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=107010) Co-parenting with a Toxic Ex - Amy Baker, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=226013) Codependent No More - Melody Beattie (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56458) Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving - Pete Walker, MFT (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=273679) Conquering Shame and Codependency - Darlene Lancer, JD, MFT (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=232623) Contemplating Divorce: A Guide to Deciding - Susan Gadoua, LCSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=141223) Controlling People - Patricia Evans (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=181666) Creating Loving Attachments - Daniel A. Hughes PhD. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=195443) Crossing the Borderline - Polly Fielding (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=206705) Dance of Intimacy - Harriet Lerner, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=106982) Daring Greatly - Brene Brown, PhD, LMSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=200082) Daring to Trust - David Richo (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=207251) DBT Made Simple - Sheri Van Dijk, MSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=213747) DBT with Suicidal Adolescents - Alec L. Miller, PsyD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=73940) Diagnosing and Treating Co-Dependence - Timmen Cermack, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=303660) Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, DSM-5 (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=290724) Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook - M. McKay, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=77109) Disarming the Narcissist - Wendy Terrie Behary LCSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=303625) Divorce Poison- Richard A. Warshak, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=59950) Don't Alienate the Kids - Bill Eddy, Esq (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=216244) Eight Keys to Building Your Best Relationships - Daniel A. Hughes, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=211481) Eight Keys to Safe Trauma Recovery - Babette Rothschild, MSW, LCSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=117725) Emotional Blackmail - Susan Forward, PhD. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=72996) Emotional Intelligence - Daniel Goldman, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=303624) Essential Family Guide - Randi Kreger (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=80293) Facing Codependencey - Pia Melody (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=123769) Feeling Good - David D. Burns, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=79768) Full Catastrophe Living - Jon Kabat-Zinn (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=113358) Get Me Out of Here - Rachel Reiland (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56741) Getting Past the Affair - Douglas K. Snyder PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=103183) Getting Respect and Dealing When Your Line Is Crossed - Courtney Macavinta (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=129483) Grieving Mental Illness - Virginia Lafond (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=225328) Growing Up and Older with a Mentally Ill Mother - Susan Nathiel (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=123767) Hard To Love: Understanding and Overcoming Male Borderline Personality Disorder (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=329532) Healing From Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from... (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=329309) Healing the Shame That Binds You - John Bradshaw (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=107301) Healing Your Emotional Self - Beverly Engel (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=137973) Hold Me Tight ~ Sue Johnson Phd (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=313493) Hope & Healing: Helping Young Children Affected by Trauma - Kathleen Fitzgerald (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=125807) How to Break Your Addiction to a Person - by Howard Halpern PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=303828) How to Forgive When You Can't - Jim Dincalci, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=240416) I am Not Sick I Don't Need Help! - Xavier Amador, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=61716) I Don't Have To Make Everything All Better - Gary B. Lundberg, MA, MFT (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=128027) I Hate You, Don't Leave Me - Jerold J. Kreisman, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56740) If You Had Controlling Parents - Dan Neuharth, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=277981) In An Unspoken Voice - Peter A. Levine, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=223064) In My Corner on the Moon - Rachel Raskin-Shoot, PysD (Child) (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=209751) Integrative Treatment for BPD - John Preston, Psy.D (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=63467) Is a Worry Worrying You? - Ferida Wolff, Harriet May Savitz (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=185902) It's All Your Fault! - Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=89660) Life at the Border: Understanding and Recovering from the BPD - L Heller, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=178849) Lost Childhoods: The Plight Of The Parentified Child - Gregory J. Jurkovic PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=329797) Loud in the House of Myself - Stacy Pershal (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=142649) Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder - Shari Y. Manning, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=149336) Loving the Self-Absorbed - Nina Brown, EdD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=167069) Mean Mothers - Peg Streep (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=104020) Mindsight - Daniel J. Siegel MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=171522) Missing: Coming to Terms with a Borderline Mother - Kathy Ewing (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=298995) My Parents Keeper - Eva Marian Brown, LCSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=128799) New Hope for People with BPD - Neil R. Bockian, PhD, Valerie Porr, M.A. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=68398) No More Mr Nice Guy~ Robert A. Glover PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=318581) Nonviolent Communication - Marshall B. Rosenberg, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=48424) One Way Ticket to Kansas - Ozzie Tinman (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56241) Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder by Valerie Porr, MA (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=128777) Parenting a Child Who Has Intense Emotions - Pat Harvey ACSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=200554) Parenting Teens with Love And Logic - Foster Cline MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=199311) Passionate Marriage - David Schnarch PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=299659) Perfect Phrases for Dealing with Difficult People - Susan F. Benjamin (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=152661) Putting Children First - JoAnne Pedro-Carroll PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=172428) Real Love - Greg Baer, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=306963) Reinventing Your Life - Jeffrey E. Young PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=60962) Saving Francesca By Melina Marchetta [Teen] (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=186378) Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques... - McKay M., Fanning P. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=183126) Setting Psychological Boundaries - Anne Cope Wallace (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=177647) Something Is Wrong at My House - Diane Davis, M.A. (Child) (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=186735) Sometimes My Mommy Gets Angry - Bebe Moore Campbell (Child) (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=186318) Splitting; Protecting yourself While Divorcing a Borderline - William Eddy, Esq (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=47078) Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist - Margalis Fjelstad, PhD, LMFT (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=203887) Stop Walking on Eggshells - Paul T. Mason MS (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56242) Surviving a Borderline Parent - Kim Roth, Freda B. Friedman, PhD. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=68021) Survivor to Thriver Manual - J. Patrick Gannon, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=189825) Taking Care of Parents Who Didn't Take Care of You - Eleanor Cade (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=106987) Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress - Mary Beth Williams, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=280701) Ten Lifesaving Principles for Women in Difficult Marriages- Karla Downing (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=314957) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ~ Stephen R. Covey (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=331907) The Betrayal Bond - Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=77344) The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=301413) The Boy Who Was Raised As a Dog - Bruce D. Perry, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=125546) The Buddha & The Borderline - Kiera Van Gelder (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=133356) The Burden of Sympathy - David Allen Karp, PhD. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=225349) The Conscious Parent - Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=226080) The Dance of Anger - Harriet Lerner Ph.D. (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=106983) The Emotional Incest Syndrome - Patricia Love (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=123770) The Everything Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder - Constance Dolecki, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=207271) The Explosive Child - Ross Greene, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=41177) The Gift of Fear - Gavin De Becker (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=101561) The High Conflict Couple - Alan E. Fruzzetti, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=73976) The Invisible String - Patrice Karst [Child] (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=186322) The Journey from Abandonment to Healing - Susan Anderson, MSW (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=155621) The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple - Joan Lachkar, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=56788) The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment - Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=108910) The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook - Glenn R. Schiraldi, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=213669) The Power of Validation (for parents) - Karyn D. Hall, PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=166930) The Search for the Real Self - James F. Masterson, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=126973) The Siren's Dance - Anthony Walker, MD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=301384) The Ultimate Guide to Transforming Your Anger - Jane Middelton-Moz PhD (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=106985) The Weather House: Living with a Parent with BPD - R. Fraser, MD (Child) (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=223218) The White Knight Syndrome - Mary C. Lamia (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=164282) Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay - Mira Kirshenbaum, MFT (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=301389) Toxic In-laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your Marriage - Susan Forward (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=136015) (https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=57139) Title: Re: Which books have helped you most? Post by: Enabler on March 08, 2019, 11:31:27 AM When hope is not enough - Bon Dobbs
Toxic Parents - Susan Forward & Craig Buck Love must be tough - James Dobson Boundaries - Henry cloud & John townend Title: Re: Which books have helped you most? Post by: once removed on March 08, 2019, 11:39:23 AM ive only read two, i think. Boundaries, and The Journey from Abandonment to Healing.
its been so long since i read Boundaries, but what i learned from it was not to say yes to everything in romantic relationships (or no to everything), and not be afraid to be more myself in romantic relationships. Journey was a good book for a breakup, explained pretty well what was going on, and i found the Stages of Abandonment a lot more pertinent to me than the Stages of Grief. some of the Inner Child stuff toward the back end of the book were a little out there for me. Title: Re: Which books have helped you most? Post by: Radcliff on March 09, 2019, 01:17:34 AM Boundaries - Henry Cloud PhD, John Townsend PhD To survive with a pwBPD, you need empathy and boundaries. This book helps with...wait for it...boundaries! As a person who was living a boundary-less existence, this was one of the most important books I've read. Don't Alienate the Kids - Bill Eddy, Esq If you are having trouble parenting with your partner, and especially if you are contemplating divorce or are already divorced, you must read this book. It can give you a greater understanding of the causes of alienation and can help you avoid making things far worse. Hold Me Tight ~ Sue Johnson Phd I just finished reading this. An outstanding book. If you are in the throws of a BPD relationship I'd read Boundaries, Eggshells, and Loving Someone with BPD first, but if you've learned the BPD and boundaries basics and want to really work on things, give this book a look. It will change your view of how relationships work. If you have exited a BPD relationship, this book should be required reading before you start dating. I Hate You, Don't Leave Me - Jerold J. Kreisman, MD The first BPD book I read. It helped me understand the push-pull behavior. I read a review that it's a bit dated, though it's been so long since I read it, I can't say. I'd read Eggshells and Loving Someone with BPD first, but this is still a good one. Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder - Shari Y. Manning, PhD To survive with a pwBPD, you need empathy and boundaries. I found this book to be a big help with empathy. Good as one of the first books you read after realizing that you may be dealing with BPD. Splitting; Protecting yourself While Divorcing a Borderline - William Eddy, Esq If you have any thought that your partner may file for divorce or that you may at some point, you must read this book. Bill Eddy gained experience with pwBPD as a social worker/therapist, then turned lawyer and dealt with them in his family law practice. He hasn't just written the book on dealing with high conflict people, he has written many books. This was a crucial book for me. Don't overlook it. Stop Walking on Eggshells - Paul T. Mason MS The classic that brings many people here. Read it. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People ~ Stephen R. Covey This is a great book for personal development. If you're in the middle of a crisis, this isn't the first book I'd read, unless it's part of self-care for thinking about how you want to grow outside of BPD relationship issues. The High Conflict Couple - Alan E. Fruzzetti, PhD If you're getting some traction with the coping tools we teach here, and think that your relationship has some growth/improvement potential, this is a great book to read. Fruzetti is a BPD expert, and has written the book with BPD in mind, but he never mentions BPD, so you may be able to safely share this book with your partner if he or she is willing to work with you on improving things. |