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Title: Does your SO wBPD always have to have some Problem /Drama and Post by: 5min on April 02, 2019, 12:23:24 PM Does your SO wBPD always have to have some sort of a problem or drama and how do you deal with it?
It seems like there is always something she is mad about and is my reaming. We never have more than 2 good days before some form of chewing or a full blown fight. Title: Re: Does your SO wBPD always have to have some Problem /Drama and Post by: once removed on April 02, 2019, 02:31:14 PM some couples have a lot of conflict (fight a lot), but love each other and consistently. some couples fight way less, but dont actually resolve conflict. its a wide spectrum really, and whats most important is how the two approach and resolve conflict.
so whats going on? what was the latest fight about and what happened? Title: Re: Does your SO wBPD always have to have some Problem /Drama and Post by: Red5 on April 02, 2019, 02:36:48 PM Excerpt Does your SO wBPD always have to have some sort of a problem or drama and how do you deal with it? My uBPDw and I have been separated for four months now… but yes, beforehand, eight years married, eleven years r/s; always problems, drama… dealt with "one day at a time"… sometimes, "one hour to the next"… Excerpt It seems like there is always something she is mad about and is my reaming. DSM criterion #6. Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days). DSM criterion #8. Inappropriate anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights). Excerpt We never have more than 2 good days before some form of chewing or a full blown fight. Two weeks seemed to be the longest period of peace for us… between "flare-ups", two days to two weeks, I used to keep track, journal, metrics… but I stopped it, as it was too depressing to read.Red5 Title: Re: Does your SO wBPD always have to have some Problem /Drama and Post by: Red5 on April 02, 2019, 02:40:18 PM ...and whats most important is how the two approach and resolve conflict. So whats going on? what was the latest fight about and what happened? OR has made a great point here, as in "stop making it worse"… https://bpdfamily.com/content/ending-conflict Red5 |