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Title: Should I reach out for closure Post by: clvrnn on April 03, 2019, 04:11:55 PM :hi: :help:
I'd attempted contact earlier today and received no response. I'd been NC for two weeks, hoping that the air would clear after an argument, and a second break up initiated by pwBPD. There's been no response at this stage, and I think pwBPD may have moved on to a new interest, as she's been online pretty much constantly, which is unusual for her. I feel hurt, obviously. I had hoped we would reconcile, but that hasn't happened. Instead, she gradually just stopped talking to me and I don't know the actual reason. I also feel frustrated that she broke up with me when things were going well, in the midst of an argument. I am feeling quite overwhelmed with everything, and I don't know what to do next. Title: Re: Should I reach out for closure Post by: once removed on April 03, 2019, 04:31:54 PM do you think reaching out for closure might be an anxious response to the fact that she hasnt responded yet? a sort of cut your losses, protect from vulnerability kind of thing?
Title: Re: Should I reach out for closure Post by: clvrnn on April 03, 2019, 04:38:23 PM do you think reaching out for closure might be an anxious response to the fact that she hasnt responded yet? a sort of cut your losses, protect from vulnerability kind of thing? I think it's more about the anxiety of the seeing her online all the time and realising that she is no longer interested in me; and yes, the lack of response while she's still online, engaging in whatever she's engaging in. It's really overwhelming. I don't even know what I'd say. I almost felt as if I'd made progress but this has all made things very painful. I don't even know why things feel this painful. Title: Re: Should I reach out for closure Post by: once removed on April 03, 2019, 04:42:32 PM do you have a way of hiding her, unfollowing her, that sort of thing, so that you cant see her online?
Title: Re: Should I reach out for closure Post by: clvrnn on April 03, 2019, 04:44:45 PM do you have a way of hiding her, unfollowing her, that sort of thing, so that you cant see her online? Yes, I've deleted her number now because it was via a messaging app on my phone. Very easy to just click onto her name and view her online from there. Title: Re: Should I reach out for closure Post by: once removed on April 03, 2019, 04:47:46 PM that ought to help. i know its difficult with some forms of social media to hide anyone, and nobody needs that!
Title: Re: Should I reach out for closure Post by: clvrnn on April 03, 2019, 05:49:39 PM I wonder if I should just send some sort of closure contact, I don't know.
I feel very stupid. I feel as if an ex ignoring an ex is typical of most relationships, BPD or not. Maybe I'm just overreacting to everything, and these are my own issues. Title: Re: Should I reach out for closure Post by: once removed on April 03, 2019, 06:30:19 PM anxiety tells us that we have to act right now, in order to end the anxiety. a lot of time, we regret it afterward.
you dont have to do anything right now. |