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Title: As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens. Post by: Loving a BP on April 03, 2019, 01:32:02 AM I have another question:
I have noticed a tendency she seems to have... As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens. I don't know if it's coincidence or what. Is this something that happens with pwBPD? Title: As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens. Post by: once removed on April 03, 2019, 06:41:28 PM As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens. can you give some examples? Title: Re: As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens. Post by: Chosen on April 12, 2019, 05:20:32 AM It can be a manipulation thing, subconscious probably. I find that my uBPDh does it too, I guess to "punish" me for making him feel whatever he is feeling.
Title: Re: As soon as she finds out about something I don't want to happen, it happens. Post by: lostinlies on April 14, 2019, 06:32:53 AM I have noticed the same thing with my SO. It goes in cycles, right now she is in a mood with sarcasm, blaming and projecting. When she is like that, she will do things that she knows hurts me.
The last week I have been trying to cope with the help of radical acceptance. It have helped a bit in understanding and to let her own her actions, I can only choose how to react on them. But it hurts - a lot. But I don’t get angry and I can let it go much easier. |