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This is an interesting viewpoint of PDs from a Christian perspective.  It discusses quick involvement (love bombing), abuse, gaslighting, denial and discarding.  It discusses JADEing.

Later in the article, it discusses personality disorders.

https://tradcatfem.com/2017/06/30/early-dating-red-flags-of-a-predator-sociopath-or-abuser/

Interesting article.  I've done one read through.

The only thing I believe is completely inaccurate is the definitive statement that PDs get worse with age.

They may...or they may not.  We hear many stories of pwBPD slowing "growing up" and not being as bad. 

There are a number of factors at play here.

I also couldn't help but think the author has been burned...bad, by someone like this.

Last comment for now:  While "sociopaths" might be "plotting" to do all the things in the article, many with PDs "seem" to plot, but in reality they are chasing rapidly changing emotions.

Neat article to think about.

FF

The tone of the article feels bitter. I'm not surprised it was turned down by one Catholic publication. On one hand, I think it is good to warn naive women that there are men who might take advantage of their naivety. On the other hand, it has a "you are a  victim of this terrible person" approach and these types of relationships aren't all that one sided- victim/predator. Last, it isn't just men preying on women. Women are capable of abusive relationships too.

I think this is something the mods might consider taking down, due to it painting one person completely black and making the other person innocent. However, if we discuss it fairly it makes for some good discussion points. In some abusive relationships, this is the case, but I think in many relationships with someone with a PD both people are involved in the dysfunction. The way to change this is to not take victim perspective and look at ourselves at what we can change.

I am not Catholic, but the people I know who are, have gone through marriage counseling by the church before marriage. This doesn't take away all the risk. There are plenty of dysfunctional relationships in every religion/culture and that includes Catholicism. But I do think pre-marital counseling is a good idea and can help bring out potential issues.

I think this is a good illustration of "why" we often try to nudge people away from black and white thinking.  Especially thinking that would suggest the non "had" to do certain things, based on provocations from a pwBPD.

FF