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Title: Who do you tell? Post by: Zabava on April 09, 2019, 08:07:06 PM I have been posting here and I have been slowly telling my therapist about my childhood, but my husband does not know what I experienced growing up. I wonder if other people share with their significant others?
It puts distance between us and when I am really low I feel like I can't be myself around him. I went through terrible depression over the past few years and never told my spouse. In the past I have tried to reach out but he just gets shocked and scared. Part of the attraction to him was his relatively normal upbringing but at the same time I feel like he can never understand. Title: Re: Who do you tell? Post by: Turkish on April 09, 2019, 09:16:25 PM I tried to tell my ex a few things, but she's uBPD, so that didn't go well.
It must hurt to feel isolated... This might be something to trickle to him with an experienced counselor as a neutral voice. My friends knew, but they knew me since I was a teen, and they all came from dysfunctional families to varying degrees. Title: Re: Who do you tell? Post by: Zabava on April 09, 2019, 09:31:16 PM Turkish,
As a teenager I had very close friends with messed up families. It was a very intense time and I made a lot of bad choices. I acted out and was very self destructive. When I met my husband I felt very ashamed of my adolescent self and I buried the person I was. Title: Re: Who do you tell? Post by: Turkish on April 09, 2019, 10:38:14 PM I would surely encourage counselling with someone with whom you could bring your husband in at some point. It doesn't have to be a be all tell all, but a safe place to share. It sounds like you've felt a lot of stress hiding things. You're not alone here with members with spouses (from mostly functional families) from whom they've had trouble sharing.
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