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Title: How should I respond? Post by: Sunandrain on April 10, 2019, 02:56:48 PM So he’s been sitting in a room on his own for last 2 hours. I go in and very gently ask ‘ you alright?’ He answers in a rather aggressive tone ‘ If I’m not, what are you gonna do about it?’
I gently suggest ‘ how about coing in to lounge and watching tv?’ He then slowly gets up and does go into lounge to watch tv. So any suggestions as to how I should respond when he says.. ‘ If I’m not, what are you gonna do about it?’ Thanks Title: Re: How should I respond? Post by: Purplex on April 10, 2019, 04:57:46 PM Excerpt I gently suggest ‘ how about coing in to lounge and watching tv?’ He then slowly gets up and does go into lounge to watch tv. Seems like your answer to his question was something along the lines of "I could ask you to join me and watch tv together, to take your mind off whatever is bothering you" only that you skipped that step and went for the suggestion straight away, right? Sometimes it's favorable to avoid answering provocative questions directly and adress the underlying need instead, like you did. What do you think was bothering him? Maybe he was lonely or bored? Something else? Considering your question, it depends on what kind of support you think he needs at the moment. If you are unsure, maybe something simple like "I could listen to you, if you want to talk about it" or "I could keep you company/give you a hug" would be a good start to figure out what's going on and calm him down a bit? |