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Relationship Partner with BPD (Straight and LGBT+) => Romantic Relationship | Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup => Topic started by: isilme on April 12, 2019, 12:59:29 PM



Title: And he's insisting I just picked a fight - so tired
Post by: isilme on April 12, 2019, 12:59:29 PM
So it's dumb.  We both paint, draw, craft, etc.  He can't stand that I don't try to copy his methods, or insist that while they work for him, they are not good for me, leave it alone.  Not wholeheartedly doing something he way he insists must be grossly invalidating.  Anyway, I mentioned an issue with a project, he made a remark to which Is aid, no, that won't work for me (meaning, it's my project, I don't work like that, lemme think of a new way that will work, I don't think you get what I am trying for).  I missed the signals this would become a "quite fight" where he decides in what I thought was a normal conversation that I am arguing and henpecking.   I thought it was fine then see in his eyes he's decided to be mad.  We were having lunch together, he left and refused to walk with me at all out of the building or to where we usually part to go to our respective offices.

I'm too tired for this.  I was having a decent day even though I feel very horrible, flu like.  I have a long afternoon ahead of me with lots of tasks that will tax me more physically, and now this.  Yay.  I get to go home with Mr. Moody who now is insisting I told him he knows nothing, which I did NOT do. 


Title: Re: And he's insisting I just picked a fight - so tired
Post by: SunandMoon on April 12, 2019, 06:25:27 PM
Hi isilme

I get it. It's so annoying when they take offence at something not meant to create any offence.

My h sometimes makes suggestions like that, when really I'm just thinking out loud and sharing with him. The suggestions can be so off base it's annoying to me, but I've learned to say something along the lines of "Hmmm, maybe. I'll have to think about it."

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Not wholeheartedly doing something he way he insists must be grossly invalidating.

Exactly that!

I hope things settled down after you got home and that you're feeling better today.