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Recently I received this message from uBPDm after not hearing from uBPDm in several weeks.

"Hope your doing well. I am still mourning the loss of your B I want to share with you that whatever you are going through, I hope you get it figured out and that if it is drugs, that you can swallow your pride and can make the right decisions to get some help. It destroyed your B's life, don't let it do the same to you. Your U came out and wanted to know what's up and I shared. He knows and my friends know. You have not been the same. Your D and I have supported you. You had a great child hood. We all love you. Always remember that."

As I received this message, it was a Sunday afternoon and I was working on a spreadsheet for work. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

My read on this is: uBPDm grasping at straws to vilify me. I went NC immediately and blocked uBPDm from my phone. uBPDm doesn't know my address either. 

Any thoughts about this? Would love to hear any feedback from similar experiences.

I would take her advise to swallow the pride but in this case that would be by in not engaging in arguing or or not taking the bait to defend yourself against malicious lies.
I'm new to all of this but I have come to accept you can't argue with crazy.
Sorry if that word choice is not kind.
You came to the point of going NC.
That message sounds like goading and any attention is good attention, gives fuel for the drama and abuse to continue, My uBPD sister's comfort zone is drama. I'm NC, so there's nothing she can use to vilify me except lies.

Take care, Sunday eve time for rest.

I noticed the  "you had a great childhood" Is that reality?

i assumed she was swimming in her own head too much about it and decided to tell me how i feel without asking.

Can you elaborate?

my childhood with her around was terror. when she said that in her message, it felt like she was trying to suppress her narrative on me out of the blue and without even asking me. 

Wow.  Sounds like she's trying to rewrite the past.

OH MY GOSH! Sorry, but that is the first time anyone has every had the patronizing  yet loving conversation. My BPDM does the same thing. All the time! Gives you a piece of advice and loving feedback but most people do not see what she is doing. She seems like a caring mother and maybe to her she is being that way.

I don't know if it's like this for you, but those "sweet messages" are SOUL CRUSHING. I have never thought that maybe she is trying to vilify me. I just always feel patronizing and my immediate reaction is anger and I have no idea. But that's what she's doing. She always says she's a bad mother and has her faults and on the same side of the coin insinuates that my childhood was just fine. I always feel like I'm experiencing whiplash from these conversations. The most confusing thing, is there is always a bit of truth in the conversation about myself that makes me feel crazy!

I wish I was strong enough to block my mom so she could quit trying to warp my idea of my childhood. Even saying this someone is confusing.