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Title: Married less than a year Post by: Tellme01 on May 13, 2019, 05:47:58 PM :help:
Hello - I just discovered BPD is a thing, and have been confused about the last 11 months of a new marriage. If I wasn't so confident in myself, my beliefs, and my values, I probably would have gotten sucked into the blaming, the threats, and the overall anxiety of the situation. I do have to admit, I find myself afraid of addressing issues, and talking about things because the response is so unpredictable. I bought the "Don't walk on eggshells workbook" simply by perusing the psychology section at a book store and started reading just like any other business book, art book, language book...and what I found was astounding and quantified what I have been dealing with for 11 months. I am well past my breaking point and holding on because I have a high level of empathy, but I am well past my limit and want to just remind her off all the threats and the times she asked me to move and and then just leave. I feel it would be messy, but it is not worth it to me to spend the next 50 years of marriage "walking on Eggshells". Her family history is brutal compared to mine, wherein I empathize. But I am done. I would appreciate some perspective on this from others as I have just discover this and it is everything described in the workbook including the fictitious conversations in the book, except they are real to me. Thanks. Title: Re: Married less than a year Post by: once removed on May 13, 2019, 08:42:41 PM hi Tellme01, and *welcome*
i had a sort of lucky break in discovering BPD myself. it seems a lot of us have. with knowledge comes power. you mention that youre holding on, as well as done. i can certainly relate to being in that position. we can help you in either direction. whats going on between you and your wife right now, in terms of the primary conflict? |