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My daughter was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder many years ago. I guess I thought things would eventually get better for her and her extreme behavior would soon stop. Well, I'm sure most of you know that hasn't happened. Just last night she had an episode of rage toward me. I felt  blindsided because I thought things were going good between us. She's angry about a photo of her that I have on my phone. She doesn't like that the picture was photoshopped. She made all kinds of sweeping accusations about me. Most of them completely false and others were grossly distorted. There was no reasoning with her. Last night's episode left me feeling so low that I actually wished for a moment I could just disappear. I felt isolated and lonely because I had no one to talk to who would truly understand this problem. My husband is of no comfort because I believe he too has borderline personality disorder. I stayed up last night trying to find a support group online and ran across this site. I didn't have the mental energy last night to make a post. But here I am this morning with the same heavy feelings and I'm hoping someone here can give me some guidance.

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I am both glad you are here and sorry for the circumstances. This is definitely the right place for help and support. I have only been here a few months and already I see positive changes IN ME and learned a lot about how to improve my relationship with my 24 year old BPD son. Take heart. Things can get better for you and your daughter too. Let's walk through this together. What is your biggest concern right now? PS here's a hug. You look like you could use one.  

I am so sorry... This group has great people with very good advice.  You do not deserve to be treated like that.  We all have had a similar situation some more often then offers. I found this quote yesterday and found comfort in it.

I'm slowly learning that even if I react, it won't change anything,
It won't make people suddenly love and respect me, it won't magically
change their minds.  Sometimes it's better to just let things be, let people go,
don't fight for closure, don't ask for explanations, don't chase answers and don't
expect people to understand where you're coming from.  I'm slowly learning life
is better lived when you don't center it on what's happening around you and center it on
what's happening inside you instead.  Work on yourself and your inner peace.

You are right of course, no one can know. I am in a similar position. I posted today very hurt and sad.

Its unnatural not to want to love and trust your own offspring. Everything life throws at us can be faced of we don't feel alone. Then there are those of us who have to lean to protect our hearts from our adult children.

It is hearbreaking and its normal to feel that way. We start to obsess, we question ourselves mercilessly. We love them but we somehow spark their negative emotions just by being there.

I thought my dtr now 29 had grown up a bit. Maybe she has but most of it seems to have been the meds which she's off now.

Its so sad to think we may not get the closeness we want with them.

I was trying to go less often and stay less time hoping to avoid the rages. The rages were replaced with histrionics, screaming at the dog or the cooker or the dishes. No amount of time was safe. I think its me that is the problem. I think it may always be because its been 18yrs of abuse, crisis and drama.

How long has this been happening with you two?