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Title: Hard to pin point Post by: Peaceismypurpose on May 25, 2019, 11:38:48 AM I know this is standard fare while being in a relationship w someone who has BPD yet i end up feeling crazy after a relentless stream if the same behavior
Essentially my partner w broderline is oozing passive agressive actions and casting tones. yelling and so on. I am calmly making her aware that it is hurtful to me any the children and asking how she feels. (With minimal result) trying to draw boundaries w by saying i am going to take the children out for some food so she can have space. Resulting in cursing yelling name calling and so on. (Her father was just diagnosed w cancer so she is extra volatile) . This scenario has been played out several times. Im taking all perscribed maneuvers found in books and in my couples and solo therapy... just feeling drained... literally tired from the attacks without any or minimal kindness to counter balance... Title: Re: Hard to pin point Post by: Harri on May 26, 2019, 03:01:20 AM Hi.
What you describe sounds difficult and tiring. Unfortunately it also sounds familiar. I think you will find as you settle in and read and post in other threads that many here can relate. The good news is that we work together here to improve things for us and support each other. what are the books you have read and what communication techniques have you tried? Taking the kids out and allowing your wife to self soothe is actually really good. How lone have you been doing that? i ask because sometimes when you first start changing your pattern of behavior there is resistance and sometimes an increase in the unwanted behavior. If that is happening, it does not mean the boundary is not working though. It is very important to be consistent. Can you tell us more about your family? the kids? |