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 I might be repeating myself here but I've just discovered how to post properly. So...
 Well I haven't spoken to sister about anything controversial lately. There is stuff I need to address with her as she is still in my house. I'm so tired. I feel like I hajve to be rested when I approach her with my important issues such as paying for utlities, always listening to her utube in the lounge area, finding her own place etc. Problem is that I never feel rested anymore. I've got so much of my own stuff to do as well that I've left and am anxious about those things. I have little reserve left in me and any other stressor that comes my way really knocks me about. Is what I'm doing called walking on eggshells?

A warm welcome to BPD Family! You are like many of us who have a family member with BPD, just plain tired of all the problems with your sister with BPD. It must be especially hard for you because your sister is living with you and you are trying to get her to move out. For many of us, "walking on eggshells" means we never know when the instability of the BPD is going to disrupt our lives and what the intensity of the disruption will be the next time round. Can you tell us more about what "walking on eggshells" means to you?

Hi again kayclan.

I think if you are changing the way you would behave and talk and putting things off in an effort to keep another person, your sister, calm then yes, it is walking on eggshells.

It can be hard to figure out how to take care of yourself while also setting good boundaries and changing the way you interact with your sister.  Sometimes waiting for just the right time does not work.

Sometimes too, the best way to work through your anxiety is to break things up into smaller bits and make changes a little at a time.  Pushing yourself ever so slightly while learning to speak up and stand firm can build strength, reduce anxiety and energize you.