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Title: Has anyone experienced your SO in a constant fleeing mode? Post by: GoodMan on June 06, 2019, 01:07:55 PM My last post got hijacked and off topic...
My original thread: https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=336395.0 I still don't have a great grasp on an action plan... My pwBPD has a cycle of working herself up over trust issues. She comes up with things that happened years ago. Making unfounded connections to things that she garners from stalking friends and exes on social media. She makes accusations and adds statements about how we have a non existent relationship and eventually states she’s leaving because I don’t have her back. In the past I have bent over backwards to accommodate her demands and battle the accusations. Someone on here turned me on to a book called “Stop care-taking the borderline or narcissist” and it’s changing my perspective. I seem to have an addiction to care taking. I’m working with my therapist to end that addiction. Has anyone read that book? It paints a pretty grim future for partners of pwBPD. Does anyone have a success story after working on their communication skills? Title: Re: Has anyone experienced your SO in a constant fleeing mode? Post by: GoodMan on June 06, 2019, 01:16:44 PM So I walked in today after being away for work for two days to her stating...
"You don't have to worry about going on vacation with us we will go without you and as soon as I find a place I'm leaving..." Normally I would ask for an explanation and try and talk though it. This historically will go nowhere or just temporally ease the situation. Today I calmly and politly said ok and went back to work. I have no idea what caused this statement or why. I love this woman with all my heart. I do not want to loose her but I don't think I should continue to let her use this as an attack. Does anyone have any thoughts or ideas on how I should proceed? |