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Title: How can help? Post by: Anjali on June 23, 2019, 06:42:09 PM I need some advice dealing with a grown child.
Title: Re: How can help? Post by: FaithHopeLove on June 23, 2019, 07:49:21 PM Hello Anjali and welcome to the group. You have come to the right place for help and support. Can you tell us more about your adult child? What about their behavior concerns you?
Title: Re: How can help? Post by: Only Human on June 24, 2019, 10:19:37 PM Hi Anjali!
I join Faith in welcoming you here and echo what she says, you've come to the right place for information and advice What's going on? What can we help you with? ~ OH Title: Re: How can help? Post by: Anjali on June 27, 2019, 02:22:57 PM My 35 year old son has been fighting a serious depression for over a year. At one point his therapist said that she thought he might be BPD and perhaps DBT would better suit him. So far therapy, various drug regimes, and DBT so far have not helped ease his pain at all.
The question: he calls me when he lonely, scared, sad or upset. (we live in the same city but not near by). He doesn't want me to hang up. I don't know how long should I let him say the same things over and over? How long should I stay on the phone with him? His girlfriend broke up with him and he is obsessing constantly, asking the same questions: "how do I get her back" "can I write to her" "why won't she come back". All I say is I dont know. What should I be doing? Title: Re: How can help? Post by: FaithHopeLove on June 27, 2019, 04:03:16 PM Those are all really good questions. On the one hand you want to help your son but on the other hand my goodness. How many hours can you spend on the phone with him saying the same thing over and over? Maybe it is time for some limit setting. What would you feel comfortable with? Maybe limit him to a certain number of calls per day? A time limit on each one? Maybe some others here have more ideas about how you can make this situation bearable. In the meantime please take good care of yourself. You are dealing with a lot.
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