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Hi.  I haven't been here in a while.  I have been living life.  Working.  Hanging with friends.  My BF.  Working toward becoming a yogi (I am almost there)!  I was on one of mystical media accounts, and BOOM, there is my BPD/NPD sister following me...Does it ever end?

Apparently not for your sister.   

How would you describe this for you?  A mild annoyance?  A huge violation?  Something in between?

Perhaps you need to take steps to anonymize yourself.  If you use "Pina Colada" everywhere you go, you make yourself easy to follow.  If your sister hears about a great new website you are posting on, then she is likely to follow.

Since she wants to follow you, you may need to put yourself in the mindset of a policeman, trying to catch an online perpetrator.  They are very successful at disguising their online identity.  

For example, let's say I want to join multiple forums that discuss quilting, but I don't want sister to follow me or know who I am.  So, I don't use a consistent online ID, or anything that someone may know that I'd likely use.  Also, I'd be careful about what I'd share.  You can talk about a whole lot of quilting, but still hold other things confidential.

Just wondering if you are making yourself too easy to follow.  I know that some people have a bit of "pride" in consistently using a given online ID.  They can get known and gain a reputation in a given areas (i.e. wow!  Pina Colada is a great quilter, she posts on 2 other websites)

Just provoking some thought.  Maybe I'm assuming too much, and she is just there (using her consistent ID), but not discovering you yet?

Harri, it bothered me only because when I saw a new person following me that I did not know, I checked her profile AND she was following about 8 people: myself, my daughter, and two forums I follow.  It is Pinterest.  Good news is I blocked her.  There is nothing on my boards that I care if she sees, just trying to put this whole thing behind me. 
No-One, hi.  Nice to meet you and some great food for thought.  I am on FB, IG and Pinterest.  She is block on FB and on IG I would have to accept her invitation to follow me which I would not.  I do know in the future, if I go on a chat room I would use a "generic" name.  She is aware of my presence here and has made accounts at times but that is on her.  I really have not been here much since March.  I have more freedom in the summers so here I am. 
I really hoped she got over her obsession with me but I can not control her.  I am just trying to live my life and although it's sad I cannot have a relationship with her, I have accepted it and it is okay...