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Title: What does it really mean when someone 'splits' from you? Post by: ironmonger_row on July 06, 2019, 08:32:03 AM What does it really mean when someone 'splits' from you?
I have read that it is because this means either their feelings or the intimacy grew too strong, so you're 'split'. Can this ever revert? I have been out of contact with my ex for a few months but I still miss them greatly. I am so used to people leaving for other reasons, such as falling out of love or losing interest; not because they did have feelings and had to leave. Title: Re: What does it really mean when someone 'splits' from you? Post by: Turkish on July 06, 2019, 10:58:42 PM Click the quote link to read the discussion. A pwBPD has trouble seeing others as individuals, and will often split someone as all good or all bad, based upon their own past traumas and not fully differentiating themselves from their early caregivers who caused them pain.
Splitting Splitting refers to a primitive defense mechanism characterized by a polarization of good feelings and bad feelings, of love and hate, of attachment and rejection. Splitting is a powerful unconscious force that manifests to protect against anxiety. Rather than providing real protection, splitting leads to destructive behavior and turmoil, and the often confused reactions by those who try to help I'm not BPD, yet my mother's BPD Splitting of me was confusing, and set my emotional table to enter into the relationship with the mother of our kids. |