BPDFamily.com

Hello,
I need your help and advice.
It's been more than a year that my partner is suffering from depression. We broke up once (last July) and it was very painful. We went back together in September and moved together in January. He went through an extreme depression in March (his GP and psychologist tried to help him) and he blamed on his job. He's very unstable and unsatisfied with his life. He quit his job in May and now he has doubts about our relationship. A couple of days ago, the psychiatrist told him that he was suffering from BPD. Now, I understand better our situation. He doesn't see a future with me but he's still in love with me and so do I. The situation is getting too repetitive and heart breaking. I know he's very lonely (he doesn't have a love of support) and he's suicidal but I'm feeling so tired. This morning again, he said that he wanted to break up with me but he was crying and telling me that he wanted to die because life is too much of a struggle. What can I do? I need to move on but there is too much emotional pressure and guilt.
Thanks for your help.
Addy Lynn

Hi, and welcome!

I am glad you are reaching out for support as that can be a huge help when in these difficult relationships and trying to decide how to proceed.  The good news is that the members here get it and truly understand how it is to love a pwBPD (person with BPD).


We can help you with this as you navigate your way to a decision.  I am actually going to move your post to our Bettering a Relationship board, not because we are going to try to make you stay though.  You get to make that choice.  Rather, on the bettering board you will learn tools and skills that will help you make the tough decisions ahead and give you a way to more clearly see any limitations there may be.

Can you give us some more information about the types of conflict you have?  What is a typical argument like?  The more detail we get the easier it will be to help you.

Again, *welcome*