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Title: I’m slowly progressing through the stages of grief Post by: Pepperoni on August 06, 2019, 02:07:59 PM Nod Note: This is a continuation of https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=338281.0
Latest update... I’m slowly progressing through the stages of grief, still miss her though and have good and days. More friends are telling me weird stuff she has said, it seems to me that she is distorting reality to make it easier on herself. I think it’s pretty clear she won’t be back because of the things she is saying about me, so I am trying to move on. I didn’t realise how much I used to share with her though, but I guess time is a healer. I wish I could switch off my feelings like her. It’s amazing how all the good times we had together seem to not matter. Thanks again for the support. Title: I’m slowly progressing through the stages of grief Post by: Ozzie101 on August 06, 2019, 02:36:05 PM Thank you for keeping us updated, Pepperoni. As you're discovering, it is a process, not like flipping a switch. Recovery takes time. I hope you're practicing self-care and being good to yourself. And keep posting. We get it. There are many people here who have been in situations similar to yours.
Title: I’m slowly progressing through the stages of grief Post by: once removed on August 06, 2019, 03:20:01 PM Excerpt I wish I could switch off my feelings like her. she hasnt switched off her feelings, Pepperoni. quite the contrary. shes hurt. to cope with that, shes slagging you. have you ever been in a situation where you were rejected, and it stung, and maybe you told yourself something like "well im better off anyway, i didnt really like them that much", etc, told yourself bad things about them? thats what shes doing here, just on an extreme level. its not unlike when you were saying you dodged a bullet, and playing out how youd reject her if she came back. you hadnt switched off your feelings. you were coping. if what your friends are telling you hurts, i might ask them not to relay anything more. it doesnt help to hear it. i think theres a pretty reasonable chance (not a certainty) that once some of the ice has thawed and shes vented the hurt, you may hear from her. most people, at the end of the day, dont like to end on such a bad note. she may even want to reverse the sense of rejection. i think the question is what you want to do if that happens. |