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Title: Finally together Post by: LeafBlower on August 13, 2019, 01:56:27 PM My wife and I have been married for a decade but have lived in different states...long story. We have looked forward for a long time to finally being together in one house.
She has had meltdowns over the phone at times that have concerned me since they are nearly always repeats of issues discussed over and over again. I only recently learned about bpd, and I think that's what I am dealing with. I want us to have a happily ever after, yet it seems to be getting worse especially because she hates her job, drinks too much at night because of it and then worries her issues like a dog with a bone ... She refuses, to date, to consider couples counseling. ...what to do... how do I help her...? Title: Re: Finally together Post by: Radcliff on August 14, 2019, 01:13:24 AM *welcome*
There's a lot that's out of your control, but also a lot that you can do to make things better, or at least avoid making them worse. Moving in together is a big shift! Can you tell us a little more about why you were apart? What enabled you to come together? How long have you been living together? RC |