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Title: When you trip on eggshells. Post by: mssalty on August 24, 2019, 12:57:48 PM I have a hard time discussing serious issues with my SO. If they want to do something, I have to agree or I know I'm going to have a hard time. If they want to do something that will impact me, or have a financial hardship, I know that there will be an argument if I try to raise an objection. As a consequence, I often pause, bite my tongue, or do other non-verbal cues that start my SO spiraling.
Is there any way around this? When I try to talk about how I feel like I can't discuss these issues, my SO says "well, I don't either because you react that way." I'm frustrated because I feel like no matter what my opinion is discounted, but by highlighting this, my SO says I'm discounting their feedback. Title: Re: When you trip on eggshells. Post by: Radcliff on August 25, 2019, 12:43:24 AM I'm sorry to hear about the difficulties with your SO. Darned-if-you-do and darned-if-you-don't situations seem unfortunately common. Can you give us a specific example with some details about your interactions to help us better understand what's happening?
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