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Title: Gaslighting Post by: sam64 on September 17, 2019, 11:01:34 AM If I 'call' my husband (of 20 years) on strange/inappropriate behaviour, he says 'that's in your head' or 'you think that happened, it didn't' - I recently learnt that this is 'gaslighting' (abusive) as a response. What do I do?
Title: Re: Gaslighting Post by: once removed on September 17, 2019, 11:11:26 AM hi sam64 and *welcome*
can you give us a recent example? we can walk you through it. Title: Re: Gaslighting Post by: theuproar on September 17, 2019, 11:30:07 AM Following this thread. I get constantly, constantly gaslighted and I would like some better tools in dealing with it.
I have gotten much better about setting boundaries, but I still often over-react and cry or defend myself, which just makes things escalate. The injustice of it all just seems too egregious to let go of. Title: Re: Gaslighting Post by: sam64 on September 18, 2019, 04:23:40 AM Recent example: I said, apropos a sarcastic remark, 'That wasn't very nice' and he replied 'It was perfectly 'nice'. You INTERPRETED it as not very nice'. (accompanied by eye-rolling to our son)...
Title: Re: Gaslighting Post by: once removed on September 18, 2019, 11:32:05 AM and in that situation, how would you normally respond?
the more we know, the more back and forth we have, the more we can help. |