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Title: Sister In Law, too? Post by: Swimmy55 on October 11, 2019, 10:56:07 AM Well, the fun never ends. My new SIL informed me she was diagnosed with BPD years ago. She has been in therapy for years, though, but has stopped 2 years ago due to being tired of therapy. My brother( her husband) has not been diagnosed BPD. I can't really say he even has traits, but he does have other serious issues with mood that are un-diagnosed. He also is a heavy drinker. They had a whirlwind romance across 2 continents, now they are married , living in the USA and my bachelor brother at the age of 46 has 4 new step kids 18 years and under now. Oh and 6 pets. I am befriending my new family, but also being on the look out to not be "sucked in". I am disturbed to see my bro does not get along with the youngest ( 9) and I have major issues with this and have let him know this. I have issues with the SIL putting up with this. I know, not my place, but the kids are innocents in all this.
I first came to this Board this summer over my BPD adult son and discovering my Father has definite BPD traits. I am going to have to up my readings on the BPD parent and sibling . I have my issues, I know ( not BPD) but I also have to catch up on reading here more regarding persons with multiple family members suffering from BPD. Thanks for the listen. Title: Re: Sister In Law, too? Post by: Jareth89 on October 11, 2019, 11:15:41 AM Hi Swimmy, it can be overwhelming to find out you are dealing with more than one pwbpd/npd. I'm dealing with 3 (sil, her parents). The dynamics are tricky. These are not the same in-laws I knew 2 years ago. I feel it's all a deception and very weird. It's always sad when kids are involved. People try to carry on as normal but you can't really - someone has to address the dysfunction and say what is acceptable and what is not. What else can you do, pretend it isn't happening and play happy families?
Title: Re: Sister In Law, too? Post by: Kwamina on October 11, 2019, 08:22:02 PM Hi Swimmy55 :hi:
It definitely can be quite challenging dealing with multiple BPD family-members. You had already been through quite a lot with your son :hug: My new SIL informed me she was diagnosed with BPD years ago. When and how did your SIL inform you about her BPD diagnosis? I am disturbed to see my bro does not get along with the youngest ( 9) and I have major issues with this and have let him know this. I have issues with the SIL putting up with this. I know, not my place, but the kids are innocents in all this. In what ways does it show that your brother does not get along with the 9 year old? How did your brother respond when you let him know you have issues with this? The Board Parrot Title: Re: Sister In Law, too? Post by: Swimmy55 on October 14, 2019, 07:52:00 PM Thanks Jareth .
Kwamina- She informed told me her diagnosis while we were talking about my son . She said she had BPD too and was in therapy for years but stopped. My brother and his 9 year old step son. It is obvious he doesn't like him , he eye rolls the boy when he talks. And then I came out and asked him if he liked his stepson and he said" Honestly? No." From here I talked to him further about maybe he needs to spend time one on one with the boy. My brother meets me with "Yeah , I know..." Which means he may or may not try to make things better with him. And me, Here I am , almost itching to set things straight. however, I recognize this and am going to 12 step meetings to combat this. |